People that have issues with #manipulation and #gaslighting, particularly my #ActuallyAutistic/ND peeps:
I HIGHLY recommend researching Game Theory. The free trial on The Great Courses is definitely worth it. If anyone can recommend good books/audiobooks, please mention below.
A big issue that I know I personally faced was being unaware of the idea that *not everyone uses the same type of points systems.*

Not being aware of this can make us extremely vulnerable to various abuses.
If your point system is for things like “personal freedom, honesty, integrity, helping others”...you can have a lot of issues if you encounter someone with a harmful point system of things like “control, manipulation, seeing others suffer.”
People with these type of point systems also know how to target those with point systems that they can take advantage of. They will play on your values, & if they’re sadistic, will also purposely deny you of the “points” that make you happy.
I.e., if validating your gender identity is important, they’ll frequently misgender you. If your autistic identity is important to you, they’ll question your dx.

If truth & integrity are important to you, they’ll accuse you of lying.

It took me a LONG time to realize all this.
If you’re always having your honesty/integrity questioned, stop & think - is this person always pressing THAT specific button?

Is it possible they’re fully aware that you’re telling the truth, and just like making you upset, and making you waste your time explaining yourself?
I feel like the same things that we fight hard to express as parts of our identity - our neurotypes, gender, sexuality, certain goals or characteristics - are things that #toxic people like this will key in on.

And screw getting stuffed into any kind of identity closet. NOPE.
People like this also know that hiding who we are would be painful to us, which is *fantastic* for them.

The best defenses? Learning about things like game theory.

Building up a community, because it’s much harder to be gaslit when you’re not isolated, and there are witnesses.
If you can’t cut these people off, get #receipts. Screenshots, recording calls, having allies around as witnesses when you need to engage with these people.

It’s not being paranoid. It’s lessening #gaslighting fuel. It’s protecting yourself.

I could say more, but I’m tired😴

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