imagine having the privilege of "just enjoying your tween years" 🥲
like did I exist as a tween on a physical level and environmental level? yes. did I experience those years as myself? abso-fvcking-lutely not.
I wasn't "into politics" at the time (though if I was a tween today I imagine I might be, but this was before /myspace/ let alone twitter and I do have the privilege of being white).

but uhhhh
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I didn't enjoy my tween years in the slightest. hell I don't even remember a whole damn year because of trauma lmao
tbh I didn't enjoy any extended period of my childhood. there were bits and pieces I enjoyed, but at an emotional level my childhood was hell. not to mention I wasn't living as myself.

so we're back to "technically I existed as a tween, but technically I also did not"
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I was heavily bullied from pre-k through undergrad—almost two decades. I had 2 traumatic experiences when I was 10 that I remember, and 1 when I was 11 that I don't remember but have enough objective evidence to prove.
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I was barely aware that trans women existed, let alone trans men and nonbinary people. I didn't come across the latter and aromanticism until my mid-20s, asexuality in my early 20s. I had undx ADHD during peak demonization of ADHD & Adderall
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I had at least 2 teachers emotionally abuse me heavily in high school. By the end of jr year, all but one person from my entire middle school/high school friend group had stabbed me in the back while simultaneously laughing at my expense.
I recognize that I absolutely had the privileges that come with being white and middle-class, but that should only emphasize how much of a privilege it is to be able to "just enjoy your tween years" when a middle-class white kid did not—for ample reasons.
tweens are living in a fvcking global pandemic and many governments are either willfully doing jack shit, or they're watching governments unnecessarily hoard resources from their communities like what the fvck is this take even
EVERYONE'S rights are considered politics, and kids of all walks are constantly getting screwed out of theirs.
my heart is shattering for these kids—these kids who address lawmakers 4-7x their age and protest fascism and lead global movements /begging/ for their futures out of necessity.

don't you dare act like they don't have every goddamn right to get political if they choose to.
and to be perfectly clear, this all applies to kids around the world, not just the US. "just enjoy your tween years" is such a white western attitude and completely disregards the many places where there are no kids (or near enough) who have the privilege of ignoring politics.
to all the minors who see this:

I am so sorry you have to live in this world with so little voice, and are criticized when you try to have any voice. but I promise there are adults who will fight for your right to have a voice, because you live in this world too ❤

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tw // ableism

requiring or putting a lot of stock into comps is also ableist, and not just b/c there's a dearth of compable rep.

one big reason I struggle to find comps actually ties into the fact there aren't many compable queer books: I think very literally.
ex. something I default to in my early drafts as I'm focused on fleshing the story out is write actions almost like stage directions. (stood up, walked over to the door, opened the door, etc.) I recognize this in my writing and hey that's what editing is for, but it's so hard.
another thing is that I come up with metaphors that seem neat at first but then I overanalyze and quickly start doubting it actually makes sense. because overly literally thinking.
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tw // BLERFs, exorsexism
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mono lesbians claim non-lesbians shouldn’t have a say when it comes to discussing the validity of bi/pan/mspec lesbian/gay identities. they’re not only wrong b/c it very much affects non-lesbian nonbinary people, but they’re hypocritical.

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let’s talk hypocrisy first.

if mono lesbians actually wanted the conversation to stay strictly among lesbians, they’d tell their non-lesbian allies to be quiet during ~disk horse~. instead, they only tell mspec lesbians’ allies to shut up

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okay moving onto the bigger shit:

this ~disk horse~ affects non-lesbian nonbinary people. disregarding how we feel when we’re lumped into mono labels is incredibly exorsexist. you’re talking over us on something that DOES impact us.

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“my child is neurotypical”

your child is relieved and elated tone indicators exist
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it took almost 16 years for a severe pain issue to be diagnosed and another year before it was properly treated. and I was fortunate and privileged. I found an amazing doctor, I had insurance, and I'm white.
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but like, saying nonbinary folks are always included in monosexual attraction across the board makes me incredibly nervous, especially since exorsexism is so prevalent among monosexuals (mostly cis monosexuals, but some trans monosexuals as well).
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