Talking with a yoga teacher friend this morning who’s going through a meltdown & making the most of it in impressive ways.

It’s a common situation where she was seduced by a bright charming young business woman to do a project together. But hanging out & business are v different
She agreed to teach a series of events organised together.

Quickly the organiser woman started sending her controlling / patronising messages telling her how to teach and how to behave.

Her first reaction was to reply - “fuck you, youre not my boss” & pull the plug on it all.
She noticed her own extreme irrational reactivity & wondered what it was. She didnt send her angry reply. Instead, she marinated overnight in the discomfort.

She realised the feeling was the same as being a little girl, not listened to, bossed around by parents & older brothers
She realised that she had given authority to this woman & now was chafing against her own illusion of inferiority and powerlessness. Her anger was against an imagined authority.
She was afraid she wouldnt be able to speak, or stand up for herself. Afraid of her own limit.
She recognised that she was a free adult, not a little girl. She didnt NEED this woman’s love or approval. This woman had no power over her.
The anger dissolved.
She could reply “great ideas thanks” & continue to collaborate, doing whatever she autonomously chose.
Evolutionary 🙌
Im so happy for her because this skill of emotional curiosity/self-responsibility is SO POWERFUL for preventing conflict
Once you stop imagining people are an authority you stop fighting them, just agree, then do what you want
“Cut your hair”
“good idea, i should”
then just dont
Non reactivity is power!

One translation of OM Śantisśantiśantih (shanti🕊) is “not provoked, not provoked, definitely not provoked”
Not being provoked is what gives you peace, peace is not a thing u add, its what u get w/o reactivity
The role of yoga is to clear out reactivity

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10 May
It’s been very interesting teaching yoga / being present at events around the world, doing the exact same thing in different contexts. Here are some things i noticed.
Germany: incredibly honest. People are mostly comfortable talking about their suffering and dont feel like failures for admitting it. But they are all completely exhausted
China / shanghai: high performance, speed, sincerity, respect for teacher, great listening, phone addiction, everyone had new clothes. High value on flexibility, often over-educated in sanskrit etc. Not unusual to meet people with a 3hr daily practice who never sees other people
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