american legal immigration is a monster i gave up fighting 10 months ago and i do not know how to express my grief around losing a home i built from scratch because of something like that.

many other reasons to leave, but this was the first thing that i folded on.
this is the first time i’ve ever actually properly articulated it lmao

shit blows, my friends, and makes you feel like a massive failure, as if it’s your individual fault that you couldn’t push your way through a nightmarish system designed to the limits of your sanity
you *could* stay here, if you compromised on this, that, also this, oh, that thing! and also were a company’s bitch to reward them for relying on them for your visa

or you could be illegal, find an expensive lawyer (up to $400 per hour) & fight the system to find a way to stay
or u could try to go back to school, do a masters degree, pay for it all urself ofc! we’re all made of insane amounts of money, since we’re international!

middle class people who have only just broken the middle class ceiling in the last decade do not exist outside of the US duh
yes, obviously, my friends offered to marry me

it is an incredible ask, FAR too much, and incredibly invasive because they do make sure you’re not marrying to circumvent the entire process they’ve made to destroy you bit by bit everyday
and there were other reasons combined with all of that

all of it led to the decision to leave, last February. before the pandemic even hit!

i have certain things i’d like to accomplish, & they cannot happen in this country the way that it is designed for people like me
my friends who got married to their SOs and are on the path to getting their green card have had their entire immigration process stalled, btw

it is terribly scary to me, but ofc they’re gonna stay! they’re mired by bureaucratic work visas, student employment authorizations, etc
i was telling my american friend something about my japanese employment and their visas and he just didn’t understand

i realized i was talking having made assumptions that he understood visa/immigration bureaucracy basics

he did not. he had never had to deal with any of that
for context, i have been an expatriate my *entire life*

i moved from india to the middle east at 45 days old. i moved back to india at 6. moved back to ME. moved to NYC at 18. moving to japan soon

i know immigration bureaucracy intricately bc it is my entire lived experience
it is more than possible to make sure your country is welcoming to incredible people

it is actually super easy and enriches your country

i feel like this should be fairly obvious but it isn’t to people here for some reason

i do not recommend moving to the US for anyone, ever

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9 Jun
nobody reduced me to labels the way americans did

before i came here i was just me, my state in india, and the language i spoke

after i came here i was just an assortment of identities they decided were important, & was always reduced to it, even by the most well-meaning people
i think that tendency and this particular path americans have chosen in their paranoid xenophobia are intricately tied up together
for example: being pro-choice is an identity

i am incredibly pro-choice

i am also indian, a place w/ such an epidemic of female foeticide that they needed to outlaw doctors telling us the gender of our babies

abortion is FAR more convoluted there, don’t u think
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