Envy can twist a person’s affections, making them chase things they don’t even care about.

It is relational poison.

I know this because of dog poop.

/ THREAD
We have a dog.

My kids are responsible for picking up all of the dog poop from the backyard.

This is the main way they contribute to taking care of the family pet.

It’s not their favorite job.
But sometimes they still fight over who gets to use the scooper and who has to hold the bag.

One time, the two youngest had gotten outside quickly and had started the chore.

My daughter went out and came back in, visibly upset.
“They won’t let me use the scooper and they won’t let me hold the bag!”

5 minutes ago, she didn’t want to do it.

Now, she was upset that someone else was doing it.

Envy.
“Well,” I said. “Are you desperate to pick up the poop? Is it something you really, really want to do?”

“….no.”

“So stop complaining and instead tell them ‘thank you’ for doing the job.”
Envy made my daughter desire literal dog sh*t.

And she would have fought her brothers over it.

You *must* kill envy whenever it crops up.

How do you do this?
1. “Rejoice when others rejoice”

When something good happens to one of them, it should be treated as if it is good for the whole family.

When a member of the team wins, the whole team wins.
2. Recognize envy in yourself and kill it

If you don’t kill it in yourself first, you will be hesitant to discipline it in others.
3. Recognize it at work in your kids and guide them through it

Help them recognize it and how dangerous it is.

Guide them toward more healthy outlets.
4. Do not tolerate ingratitude

It is the soil where envy grows.

Do not let complaining go unchecked.

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