Since this keeps coming up.

Some genuine discussion on this.

1. If men dont understand *how* to speak to women. Prepare for a life that will not only get you disrespected, but also left

2. A man & woman's responsibility is to be a spiritual guide not a tyrant enforcer.
3. I see a serious serious problem with this kind of rhetoric when you look at the Prophetic example holistically

The *vast* majority of the *way* the Prophet peace be on him addressed women and especially his wives is somehow discarded when it comes to simply how he "stated it"
4. Why do we completely neglect how the Prophet peace be on him was *holisitically*?

Meaning have you literally taken all of the ahadith and moments of sirah on how he was a family unit, leader, husband, qawwam?

No?

Then stop projecting this weird rhetoric habib.
5. There does not need to be a voice of anger when it comes to genuine issues that need diverse discussion.

What we do is caricaturize these discussions with ping words like "diyaatha" while not teaching the Prophetic example.

Let's learn to do better.
6. Yes, many problems we face are not only multi faceted but apply to both genders

Respect
Communication
Conflict resolution

Why are we reducing these serious topics to twitter statements that doesnt even show a semblance of practical application and just triggers people?
7. Otherwise if some young men get from this kind of tweet that you somehow police your wifes clothing daily.

You are literally going to contribute to the failure of their relationships.

As an Imam, as a teacher, as a person of spiritual standing... that is incredulous.
8. It's possibly why you have a rise in secular women sick of "scholarship" who perpetuate being oppressed and staying in abusive marriages to men who think they can rule them.

Hassam gives just one example here but it's throughout many Muslim countries

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"How it started
How it ended"

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- If you feel jealousy pray for them instead
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Dont sit there and judge them.

It has become increasingly harder to find someone compatible because of people's ever changing expectations and wants, the internet doesn't help, and true compatibility takes time and doesnt have a formula.
3. Save your criticism commentary :)

Everyone always has something to say. Keep it to yourself.

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Muslims:

We are enraged that the forbidden satanic music we are listening to mocks my faith.

...

Make it make sense.
This music is itself offensive

Let's get to that core point and not talk past it. :)
"We are enraged that Quran or Sunnah is used for music in a 'degrading' way"

Understood.

This is another point:
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Remember that when Muslim musicians use Islamic phrases as well.
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Finding someone compatible has become even more more complex & difficult in age of social media

There's a ton of factors including personal struggles people are battling

Dont give irrelevant advice if you're not going to be a help 😉🌹
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People's standards have changed from the days of random proposals coming to your house.

Social circles *in person* have become smaller

Covid hasnt helped

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Mentorship isnt sought nor enough qualified to give it.

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Gender interaction is falsely understood between two extremes of hyper sexualizing or overt laxity.
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Ashari or Maturidi kalam, or Athari stances

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Develop something *founded* on our tradition.
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