There are so many reasons why predators are drawn to faith based communities.

1. They find safe harbour in naïveté.

2. They are often charming, articulate, manipulators who use human hunger for hope, connection, and redemption, in nefarious ways.
There are so many reasons why predators are drawn to faith based communities:

3. They use your willingness to look at yourself to deflect accountability for themselves.

4. They abuse holy writ and use it to traumatically sexualize the sacred.
There are so many reasons why predators are drawn to faith based communities:

5. Predators only hunt where there is a pool of possible prey: kids, adults, elderly... essentially any flock will have wolves around it, often within it.

Any real shepherd knows this.

Most do not.
There are so many reasons why predators are drawn to faith based communities:

6. There is no bar too low for most faith communities to accept members, leaders, or volunteers.

7. We hold a deep desire to see human beings restored and we also have deep human needs.
There are so many reasons why predators are drawn to faith based communities:

8. Faith communities are likened families. There is often a presumed (to our peril) high trust relationship between members.

9. Naive trust is catastrophically used and abused by predators.
There are so many reasons why predators are drawn to faith based communities:

10. Faith communities often share a desire to protect themselves from evil without... that they miss the evil within.

Note: Most home invasions are through the back door, not the front.
There are so many reasons why predators are drawn to faith based communities:

11. Faith communities that disempower and devalue the voices of women, children and youth, are much less likely to believe and act on abuse allegations when they inevitably arise.
There are so many reasons why predators are drawn to faith based communities:

12. Faith communities where dialogue on sex and sexuality is distorted (pick a way, there are just so many), shame based, or entirely discouraged may breed a culture of silence and sexual "submission."

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26 Jul
There are a few lessons that have been burned on my lips by abusers, that I would like to share.

Although these realities are raw, they are not rare.

A Thread.

1. No one is born a predator — they become. There is evidence to suggest a correlation to a combination of factors.
2. Early breaches in attachment, deformation of personality, environmental factors, adverse childhood experiences, mental illness, disposition, all contribute to the development of deviancy.

3. Strangely, what factors fashion a potential predator, also creates potential prey.
4. Hunters by nature, predators are often intuitive to human vulnerability in potential prey.

5. Potential prey may be aware of their vulnerabilities (insert any human need here).

6. Predators promote themselves as the answer to these human needs.
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24 Feb
1. No one is born a sexual predator, they become one.

2. There are different sorts of predators with specific paraphilias but usually more than one sort.

3. A combination of attachment issues, personality disorder, cognitive distortions, and moral disengagement is at play.
4. Sexual predators start early and stay late. Early intervention can help. Most sex offender self report to lifetime offences.

5. They offend in their heads when they can’t offend with their bodies.

6. Recividism rates reflect getting caught, not actual offences.
7. Sex offenders should be treated — they should never be trusted.

8. The issue of redemption is a tricky one that I have wrestled with deeply.

9. Great evil requires a great remedy — those who commit the former, rarely want the latter.
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24 Feb
One thing that concerns me is discussion around sin and sexual abuse. To be sure, sex offenders sin against, others — but they do much more than the run of the mill sinfulness.

They hunt humans.
Sex offenders engage in various forms of sexual deviancy (paraphilias) and utilize in extensive cognitive distortions along with moral disengagement that the average human can’t comprehend.

Why?
It never even occurs to us.

Why?
Because we are not sex offenders.
Well meaning folks apply their own moral code to sex offenders.

This is a grave mistake.

You’d feel terrible if you hurt someone. You’d be wracked with guilt. You’d confess, repent, and never to it again.

You probably wouldn’t sexually abuse someone either.
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22 Feb
I wish I didn't know what it feels like to blame the victim, be the victim, love the offender, and wish with all my wisher that the allegations of abuse weren't true — but I do and they are.

What I can tell you is this — the only way through is truth as savage as what it seems.
I was ten when the first offender I knew blamed the victim.

I believed him.

Why?

Because I loved him.

Then I became the victim.

Then I loved her.
I left behind a brother who also believed him and blamed me.

Why?

Because he loved him.

Then he became the victim.

Then he loved me.
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22 Feb
I didn’t start speaking to become a personality — just a person. Having lost so much privacy, I only use this account for advocacy. I have FB, but I never use it, and IG is just for folks I actually know. I don’t know how to go on from here, but I’m committing to giving it a go.
I truly don’t know what this looks like right now, other than I know I need to get my frantic automatic nervous system settle down. I also need to clean my house, do that pile of laundry, and find the present a gift again. Bear with me. It’s been a time.
I keep looking at this yellow cottage on Change Island in Newfoundland — so that tells you how much retreat appeals to me. It take 34 hours to get there from here. Think me not brave. Yellow appeals to me — greatly. point2homes.com/CA/Real-Estate…
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17 Feb
I have done my best to share my understanding of the predatory playbook, to give coherent statements, and dance around a non disclosure agreement. I confess I am near the edge of panic.

I’d like to share a few thoughts with you and call it a night.

A Thread.
I have written over 247 blog posts at loriannethompson.com

Some of them at good, some bad, some long, some short, some from experience, some from evidence — but all were born of the agony of abuse.

Most anything I am willing/able to say publicly is posted there.
You are all experiencing the betrayal trauma that I and others have had for years. You trusted him. We did too. You believed in him. We did too. The difference is, he didn’t consume you.

Therefore, most of you are experienced secondary victimization and that’s legitimate too.
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