I've said in the past that my entire family was supportive of my transition, but that's not exactly true.

My dad was unapologetically opposed to it, initially. He was having none of it.

My dad doesn't mince his words, he tolerates no bullshit and is a purveyor of tough love. But his kids mean everything to him; he's went to hell and back for me and my sister.

When I told him I was transitioning, he looked me in the eye and said “I don't have a son.”

I was hurt but I knew my dad. I knew it would take time (and he has SINÉAD tattooed on his arm, so wasn't happy to hear I'd changed my name...)

For the 2 two years of my transition, my dad stuck to his guns. He introduced me to people as his daughter while I had a beard etc.

One day, he told his friend on the phone that he was visiting his “son.”

He'd come around. Eventually.

When I was gearing up to tell him I was detranitioning I remember thinking “he's going to love this. Here comes the 'I told you so,' he's going to rub this in my face.”

So I called him up and told him. His reply?

“Whatever you do, I'm here.”

My dad never hated that I was trans - but he was concerned because he knew that transition wasn't for me. When I told him I was detransitioning, he knew I'd come to a horrific realization. He knew.

He never abandoned me, never cut me off, never raised his voice or insulted me. He simply said “no” to my insistence that he suddenly had a son.

I really wish I'd listened to that “no” back then. But I didn't.

The lessons we learn as we grow, I suppose.

I think my dad handled it as well as he could. He stood his ground (for a few years) and said "no" to my insistence he had a son.

But I wish (and I say this for any dads/mums reading) that he'd told me why he opposed my transition. I wish he'd opened up and told me why.


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