I'm sure some do. But as often, parents think this when YOUR CHILD IS TELLING YOU THAT THEY ARE STRUGGLING.

"You're smarter than this." I wasn't. I was literally just born.

"Get me the thing." "I can't find the thing." "Sigh. It's right there. Snake woulda bit you." I'M BLIND.
Specific example: mom asked me to do the laundry. I was 12. I had never done the laundry. I understood the theory. So I agreed, but asked her to show me. She was furious. I should know how to do the laundry by now! Yeah, probably! But I need the settings explained ONCE, anyway.
Times a kid IS trying to get out of something? There's a nonzero chance they've got cause. "I'm in the middle of something, can I do it later?" Really does not fly in many households I know, but why shouldn't it, as long as later actually happens?
Thinking about this in terms of adults now and I absolutely know what OP is getting at. I KNOW some people intentionally do an ass job of something they don't want to be asked to do again.

But also no skill is inherent. People will mess things up repeatedly even if it's "easy".
If you didn't really do a chore growing up it's gonna be a while before you're any good at it. This doesn't mean you shouldn't learn it! I'm terrible at vacuuming. This may always be true. It still needs doing.
Imperfection's got to be OK sometimes. Nobody gets out of dishes because they're "bad at it", and eventually they won't be.

Unless they are. Disability is another wrinkle in this whole thing.
You probably want me to have a point. Alas. If I have one it's that there's got to be room both for not putting up with people's crap AND understanding that sometimes it may not be crap.

And also please live with people before you marry them.

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