The thing I appreciate most about other detransitioners is, in my experience, they don't just agree with you to be a part of a “community.”

If a detransitioner disagrees with me, they tell me straight. They don't just nod along because “wE dEtRaNs NeEd tO sTick TogEthEr.”

I see detransitioners disagreeing with one another all the time – good. You should say how you feel, never feel pressure to self-censor. I think that's because many detransitioners learned from their trans days (especially if once 'woke') how horrible a hivemind truly is.

Was talking to a detrans woman last night (if reading, I still love you) and she called me out for misgendering Chris Chan. I explained why I will never call Chris “she/her” and she countered with why she disagreed, and I appreciate that. We agreed to disagree and moved on.

As a former “truscum” trans man, I never experienced the trans activist hivemind but I know alot of detransitioners who did, and I'm proud to see them standing up for their beliefs – even (especially) when those beliefs differ from mine and what's "expected" of detrans folk.

I've noticed detransitioners generally come together to discuss detrans stuff, but don't pretend to have everything in common. Religious, non-religious, left-wing, right-wing, pro-this, anti-that. They'll make clear that despite also being detrans, they won't just go along.

Whereas with trans activists (in my experience) all they have in common is being trans. Yet they agree on literally everything else. There's no room for debate. They all support “trans kids," dysphoria isn't a mental illness, anything besides affirmation = conversion, etc.

So I really appreciate all the other detransitioners I talk to (or just see on here/elsewhere). When you're welcomed into a “community” for having a particular trait, it takes guts to say “actually, I disagree with you on x and y."

"I have *my own views* on this topic."

Just because one detransitions does not mean they are:

Radical feminist/Anti-feminist
Gender Critical/Gender Woke
etc. etc. etc.

And thank Christ for that. Just be you.


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11 Aug
When I was early in my transition, I never got upset when I was misgendered. I understood that, when I didn't pass, it was bound to happen. And I understood that even when I did pass, slip ups were going to happen now and again.

I've never understood the outrage that some trans people express at being accidentality misgendered. I certainly didn't understand the view that “when I'm misgendered it's extremely distressing. It's so hurtful, you're denying my existence” etc.

If pronouns can cause you extreme distress then isn't the problem with you? No healthy, well-adjusted adult gets *that* upset by a slip up. I think rather than screaming at or crying about an accidental misgendering, you need to learn to cope with life more than anything.

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I've said in the past that my entire family was supportive of my transition, but that's not exactly true.

My dad was unapologetically opposed to it, initially. He was having none of it.

My dad doesn't mince his words, he tolerates no bullshit and is a purveyor of tough love. But his kids mean everything to him; he's went to hell and back for me and my sister.

When I told him I was transitioning, he looked me in the eye and said “I don't have a son.”

I was hurt but I knew my dad. I knew it would take time (and he has SINÉAD tattooed on his arm, so wasn't happy to hear I'd changed my name...)

For the 2 two years of my transition, my dad stuck to his guns. He introduced me to people as his daughter while I had a beard etc.

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It pisses me off how many trans men I know who don't give a shit about their health.

They don't bind safely. Don't aspirate the syringe to check if they're in a blood vessel. Don't book appointments for female-specific health checks. Don't get their hormones/bloods checked.

It pisses me off because I used to do those things, too. I know the mentality. “I'll be fine,” and “if my doctor hasn't said anything, then it can't be that bad.”

And they laugh it off when I raise concern.

Well, your doctors aren't doing their fucking jobs, then.

I completely understand that dysphoria makes certain aspects of health care difficult but Jesus fucking Christ guys, you're life is more important than a few minutes of embarrassment and discomfort.

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The problem with “communities” is they tend to speak for people they have no business speaking for, ironically drowning out the very voices they purport to amplify.

“They gay community-” unless that sentence ends with “is made up of gay people,” it is false.

“They gay community supports kink at Pride.” No, it doesn't. Some gay people within the community support kink at pride, but many don't.

“They trans community supports trans kids.” No, it doesn't. Some trans people within the community support trans kids, but many don't.

I have never claimed to speak for the “detrans community” because I'm aware that there are many detransitioners who hold different opinions and beliefs from me.

I'm not a spokesperson for the “detrans community,” just as you are not a spokesperson for the “LGBT+ community.”

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I've been conflicted about posting this for a while but I'm going to do so now, with emphasis that I'm not saying transition/detransition is something you should seek to escape unwanted attention.

Okay, so...

Pre-transition there were times I couldn't go to my local shop for my bread/milk without some creep saying some horrible shit to me. Going to pubs/clubs was a nightmare.

Between the ages of 14-21 I don't think there was many a weekend I wasn't perved on in some capacity.

Since transition and detransition, that has dramatically changed. As in, it doesn't happen any more.

The minute my HRT took effect (about age 25) men left me alone. I haven't been sexually harassed by a man (bar one time) since starting transition/detransition.

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I get called hateful (among other things) for discussing detransition, and for acknowledging that sex can't be changed. But there's a reason I talk about this so much.

I detransitioned due to transition regret but that's not to say my transition wasn't “successful.”

On the contrary, I passed very well, lived “stealth,” was accepted (celebrated, even) and had everyone who knew me pretending I was a man and everyone who didn't know me believing I was one.

My transition went as well as transition can go, socially, legally and medically.

I came to regret transition because I realized that simply passing as a man wasn't enough. It was shallow.

No matter how much I looked and sounded like a man, I'd never actually be one.

I wanted to be a man, but as a female I could never achieve that. Never.

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