1/ Legit therapist don't act "like therapists" on twitter. We're therapists in our offices, in context of a professional therapy relationship. Not on twitter.

Steer clear of anyone who respond "like a therapist" on twitter. They're already showing their lack of understanding &
2/ lack of professional boundaries.
Think about it. What would you think of an attorney who gave legal advice to a stranger based on a 280 character tweet? An MD who made diagnoses/wrote prescriptions based on a tweet? Most people would understand it's a screaming red flag.
/3 Yet some seem to think psychiatrists/ psychologists/therapists should engage with everyone on twitter as if they were our patients/clients.

No. It doesn't work that way & can't. If you think that's what "therapists" should do, it's time to seriously rethink your assumptions.
/4 Case in point: if a patient were rude or antagonistic, I'd likely get curious with them about their thoughts, feelings, & experience, including their perceptions & experience of me. I'd hold as an open question whether I had done something that hurt or offended, or whether
/5 their experience & reaction in the moment was being colored by a past experience or relationship with someone else, or perhaps some of both. This would happen in the context of an ongoing therapy relationship in which some trust had been established, and in which there was
6/ mutual understanding and agreement that this kind of inquiry and exploration would be and part of our relationship, as well as understanding of why and how this kind of exploration & inquiry could ultimately help them with the difficulties that brought them to therapy and for
7/ which they were seeking help. The relationship would also be one in which I give the person my full, undivided attention for the duration of our sessions, hold in mind why they've come for help, & use my clinical expertise to the best of my ability to provide that help. And
8/ I'd be getting paid to provide that very specific kind of attention and expertise.
NONE of these things is the case when a random person with whom I do not have a relationship addresses me in a rude or antagonistic way on twitter. Here, you'll get ignored or blocked.
9/ Or, depending on my mood, if you say something particularly irritating, you may get an irritated response back. And that's how it should be.
Twitter is not your therapy. Real psychiatrists/ psychologists/ therapists are not going to act like your therapist on twitter.

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