I caught up with an old friend who happens to be a gay trans man. I asked how dating's been since he started using dating apps. He said “great,” so I asked him how gay men react when he tells them he's trans. He said “I don't message gay guys, just bi guys.” 1/
I think this attitude is why most of the trans people I know are happy. They accept that being trans may sometimes limit what spaces they have access to and they know that not everyone will consider them an option for dating/sex.

They accept reality. 2/
I see a lot of trans people online getting really upset or angry when they're told they're unwelcome in a single-sex space or when they're rejected romantically/sexually, and I actually feel quite bad for them. 3/
I remember a gay trans man posting on the gaybros subreddit asking if any of them would date a trans man. All of the replies bluntly said “no.”

The trans guys post history showed that trans subs had told him gay guys would be into him because he was “just another gay guy.” 4/
I understand why gays/lesbians get pissed off when accused of “transphobia” for rejecting a trans person, but I do have sympathy for said trans people because they've been lied to by their own community who're supposed to care about them. 5/
Think about it - If you spent all your time cocooned in an LGBTQ+ echo chamber, constantly being told you are a man, you are a gay man, you are a cute gay man who's going to have absolutely no problem finding a “cis” boyfriend, that's exactly what you'd believe. 6/
Nobody can (or should want to) force anyone to date/sleep with them. If the T really cared about their own, they'd stop lying to young trans people and would instead prepare them for reality.

Because whether they like it or not, reality is exactly what they're going to face. 7/7

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6 Sep
The 2 year anniversary of my detransition is coming up, so thought I'd share some observations.

On T, it took about 5 months for my body hair to thicken and about 9 for my beard to start coming in. Off T it took a year before body/facial hair became lighter/slower to come in. 1/
On T, it took about a year for my hairline to recede and for the hair loss on my scalp to begin. Off T, it took about 18 months for my hairline to come in a little more, but the scalp hair loss has never reversed (though growing your hair out hides it a little more). 2/
On T, it took about 3 months for noticeable fat redistribution, and about 8 months for noticeable muscle gain. Off T, the fat redistribution and muscle loss took about 4-5 months. 3/
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4 Sep
I see views on here I don't agree with, or even downright dislike, from people I follow. Despite that, I believe those of us who wish to save single-sex spaces, respect same-sex attraction, acknowledge biological reality and demand better care for dysphoria need each other. 1/
We're seeing male sex offenders flashing women and girls' and being *defended* because they claim to be trans. Gay men chased out of pride for being the "wrong kind" of gay (the same-sex attracted kind). Trans and detrans people being bullied for being heretics and apostates. 2/
We're seeing kids (many who are simply gender non-conforming or gay) being indoctrinated into gender ideology, transitioning while too young to fully understand what's happening.

Is falling out over a Twitter spat more important than standing together against this madness? 3/
Read 5 tweets
29 Aug
Seeing the LGB Alliance slandered as a “hate group” is particularly baffling to me because they supported me when nobody else would.

When I first started talking about my detransition, I was met with a deluge of insults and threats. I was piled on and told to disappear.

1/
When I spoke of how my same-sex attraction contributed to my transition, I was called a liar.

The LGB Alliance invited me to their event in Glasgow and embraced me, telling me I had nothing to be ashamed of.

That I didn't deserve to be insulted, threatened or silenced.

2/
The LGBA knew that inviting a detransitioner to their event would be used against them as “proof” they're “transphobic” - despite the fact that while I was at their event, I met and befriended some wonderful and equally supportive trans women.

I felt so safe at their event.

3/
Read 5 tweets
27 Aug
Been thinking about some stuff I saw in 2012-2014 when frequenting trans blogs/boards.

Trans women buying/wearing sanitary pads, or tampons in their purse “for show.” Trans men wearing packers, or buying condoms even though they didn't sleep with men. All sorts “for show.”

1/
As tempting as it may be to eye-roll at this, we really need to reflect on it: There are people so distressed by their sex that they'll waste money on things they don't need just to feel, for a second, that they're the opposite sex – even if it's for a complete stranger.

2/
The high you get from passing when you're early in transition is something else, so I understand why some trans folks do things like buy tampons/condoms they don't need.

But here's the thing – buying and wearing a sanitary pad or tampon is not something any woman enjoys.

3/
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26 Aug
Some of the most horrid shit I've seen came from the politically correct side ie. “trans women are just like gay, black, tall etc women, they're all x-women!”

Are you people fucking kidding me? Gay, black, tall etc women are women because they're women – adult human females.

1/
Trans women are not women because they're not adult human females – they're adult human males who identify as/with women. They have experiences, problems, concerns etc. that are exclusively male.

This shit gets my wee feminist-in-denial side out like a motherfucker,

2/
Just as women and trans men have experiences, problems, concerns etc. that are exclusively female.

To conflate sexuality, race, height etc. with biological sex is so fabulously fucking ignorant I don't even know where to start.

3/
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19 Aug
Noticed something in my trans group.

The trans men (after months on hrt) are not nervous using the men's toilet. The trans women (even after years on hrt) still feel nervous using the women's toilets.

Of course it boils down to passing.

1/
Trans men tend to pass as men a lot better (and a lot quicker) than trans women.

The trans men don't feel nervous because they know the men in the toilet with them don't know a female is present. Quite the opposite with many trans women.

So I wondered-

2/
Why feel nervous? If you really believe you're a man or a woman, why feel nervous about using the men's/women's toilets?

The answer seems to be "because I'm know I'm not *really* a man/woman and I don't want that pointed out in public."

3/
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