If you’ve experienced stigma and/or shame about your singleness, please feel free to answer these great questions from Rachel as to the reasons why and as to ways to help prevent/alleviate stigma and shame.
My answer: I think I experience shame both from within myself (What is so wrong with me that I can’t seem to have a lasting relationship? Am I broken?) and from outside sources who have pressured me and asked insensitive questions.
Then there’s the Church at large that somehow simultaneously shames singles for their desires/longing/discontent while making an idol out of marriage. And having no idea what to do with us and failing to present a robust theology of/vision for thriving in singleness.
As to what can be done: at the individual level, encouraging the singles around you, inviting them into your life and home, affirming the good qualities you see in them, keeping an eye out for potential matches if you know they’re open to that.
In our churches: we desperately need more single people in leadership. And the Church has to recognize how highly it has elevated marriage/the nuclear family to the detriment of its single members. How to accomplish that is beyond me, but these are my quick lunch hour thoughts.

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