So I guess I'm a huge hypocrite because I started out #TeamSonya too and now I'm screaming at everyone who was on Team Sonya they're going to hell

But, to be fair, when I first heard about this story I treated it as a mild amusement and didn't put much effort into discussing it
Just, like, "Wow everyone here's kind of a drama queen aren't they", "Ha well being so publicly obnoxious about something good you did isn't laudable behavior but neither is being so passive-aggressive about it"
Whereas my experience of becoming #TeamDawn has been one of literal shaking and tears and frustrated clenched-teeth red-faced rage
There have been people who have literally beaten me up, stolen large amounts of money from me, spat in my face, etc that I've moved on and forgiven -- I wouldn't be their friend but if I saw them again I'd just keep walking
There are people whose only offenses against me have been "words" -- indeed, "their own words", "works of personal expression and interpretation that you have no reason to take personally" -- where if I'm ever alone with them I may go to prison for the rest of my life
(She "went too far", she's "unhinged", "this is disproportionate", "no writer should try to ruin another writer's career over hurt feelings"

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12 Oct
Okay one more

I can already see the narrative building that I'm a guy, and so is Dan Nguyen (who posted one of the first viral threads collating evidence that Sonya was in fact the asshole)

And as MEN of color we just don't understand the WoC vs WW dynamic
(Even though the FIRST really big such thread, the one the haters called "obsessive" in much the same tone people used for Dawn, whose author keeps on periodically locking to avoid harassment, was written by a WoC)

But okay
The narrative is that "You're a man who exists in a het world, you were raised to seek approval and validation from white women, your internalized racism and misogyny means you put white women on a pedestal and throw WoC especially of your own race under the bus"
Read 12 tweets
12 Oct
You know why this is so galling right

Why it feels so personal to so many people

It's not even that I think donating a kidney is the HARDEST or the BEST thing a human being can do

It's just that this is UNAMBIGUOUS

If this isn't enough, NOTHING is enough
It's the Cool Kids with all the social privilege saying "It doesn't matter WHAT you do

You don't have the power to make us respect you

We get to just decide that based on anything we want"

And making this a progressive statement! Making it "woke"! Making it all defiant!
What because the asshole who started it is a WoC talking to a white lady so this is a statement that "Your white privilege doesn't apply here! You can't MAKE me respect you for doing ANYTHING, you entitled white bitch!"

And then all these white women AND WHITE MEN join in!
Read 28 tweets
12 Oct
I dunno what word I'd use for this -- "gaslighting" doesn't seem quite right -- but it's shocking how successful communities like this are at getting you paranoid that "everyone hates you" and no one who knows you casually has any fucking idea what they mean
WAS the letter invasive and creepy and cringey and shit?

The dude didn't have to reply! He could've "ghosted" her completely -- "ghosting" is the NORMAL DEFAULT in this situation!

He went out of his way to meet with her! It seems like he liked the letter!
WAS everyone revolted at how narcissistic and self-involved her cringey video on the Jumbotron was?

Can't find ANYONE saying that shit about her "post-donation media blitz" -- probably because if a normal person said that about someone who donated a kidney you'd get punched
Read 12 tweets
12 Oct
@CurrentReligion @AsaZernik @theDwarf It's amazing that Dawn promoting actually DOING the thing of donating a kidney for a year was massive narcissism

But Sonya has been promoting this short story she wrote about her own feels about kidney donation being BAD, for SIX YEARS

Promoting it HARD
@CurrentReligion @AsaZernik @theDwarf Seriously the fact that this one 20-page story is the only thing she's written that people really care about and so she's never stopped talking about it or shilling it is...

I mean I don't think it WOULD be "cringe" if it were someone else
@CurrentReligion @AsaZernik @theDwarf That's life, that's the hustle

But to think that you shopping around your little staggering work of literary genius is somehow humbler and more down-to-earth and "normal" than what Dawn did

Oh my God
Read 11 tweets
12 Oct
@TrickiestHarpy @shadowmaster132 Yeah like they somehow got it into their head that she's the only kidney donor in the world doing anything like this

Like she's uniquely narcissistic for sitting on that parade float even though THERE WERE SEVERAL OTHER DONORS ON THE FLOAT
@TrickiestHarpy @shadowmaster132 She didn't BUILD the fucking float

She didn't enter the float in the Rose Parade

That was the National Kidney Foundation


They not only have to raise awareness to get donors they need money donations to keep the whole system going
@TrickiestHarpy @shadowmaster132 Fuck's sake I keep getting sucked back into being mad about this, it's just limitless

Sonya being all "#DoMoreForEachOther? What am I supposed to do, give an organ?!"

"No actually if you watch that whole PSA she says you can also just make a $10 monthly donation"
Read 34 tweets
11 Oct
Yeah the longer this goes on the more I'm convinced that "radical honesty" guy from the 2000s had a point
It's not that I literally think dishonesty is always a crime and never justifiable or that everyone should be absolutely scrupulously honest

It's that I'm shocked how wildly, shamelessly and casually DISHONEST people are and how they shrug it off until it catches up with them
People fucking arguing to my face that emotional dishonesty is just how life works and if I don't wanna be a total autist I should just get used to it

Oh oh and that it's *misogynist* of me to have a problem with the lies women need to tell to survive a world of men
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