#WhenICameOut A thread 🧵
I came out to my mother & her side of the family as gay at age 20 after a self destructive 2 years that almost ended in my demise. I was promptly told that I had been groomed by some dyke & that my hormone levels should be checked.
And I was no longer welcomed at family holidays because I would be a bad influence on my younger cousins. I eventually had to move from my mothers house because of her harassment & went to live with my paternal grandmother.
One night as I sat at my grandmother's kitchen table with her I told her I needed to tell her something. But I stammered & froze. Starting & stopping a dozen times. I just kept thinking that if my grandmother rejected me for being a lesbian I couldn’t take it. It would be too
much to bare.
I couldn’t take anymore abuse for something I couldn’t change . She folded her hands on the table looking across at me & said “I think I already know what you’re going to tell me, so just spit it out” “I’m gay” I said. She smiled, & said “thank you for telling me”
“Did you think I would be angry ? Your cousin is gay. I don’t care, it changes nothing, I love you” it was the biggest relief of my life. To this day I believe my grandmothers unconditional love has kept me grounded. She was the only person in my life that gave me that.
It only takes one person to make a profound difference in another’s life. I’m now in my 40’s & happily married to the love of my life. A woman who still makes my heart race when she smiles at me from across the room. I’m glad I’m a lesbian & I’m glad she’s one too.
It’s important to emphasize here that it was specifically because I was same sex attracted that I was met with hate & disgust. On this #NationalComingOutDay let’s remember the reason coming out became a political action. It was to show that us homosexuals where people too. That
we were your neighbors, family & friends. We wanted to be accepted into society & be able to live our lives. I never wanted special treatment, I wanted to be left alone to love who I wanted without being fired or denied medical care.

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