🧵 1/ It’s a very first world western ideal that one has to be happy & personally actualised to live a meaningful life.
2/ In the east (where I grew up), possibly because living conditions are harder, it’s different.

There is far too much else to worry about than the self.
3/ It is understood that happiness is ephemeral- it comes & goes. So enjoy it when it’s present.

And accept it when it leaves.
4/ Faith underpins culture, which provides a sense of meaning to the vicissitudes of life.

And helps you weather & tolerate them.
5/ Instead of the self, life is centred around family, faith, duty, philosophical meaning & service.

That has its own set of problems- but also has its own set of benefits.
6/ Chronic self-focus isn’t the norm in the same way it is in the west.

It’s a pretty luxury idea that one could spend vast amounts of time thinking about yourself, your feelings, and desires.
7/ I think a great deal of unhappiness is the result of this chronic self-focus coupled with a lack of meaning or purpose.
8/ There is also a great deal of unhappiness that results from believing you should feel happy all the time- why?

It’s not the default state.
9/ Meaning- finding it AND making it- is an integral part of a well ordered psyche.

Purpose provides meaning. Especially a purpose bigger than yourself.
10/ There are a lot of lessons to be extracted from this way of life.

Balanced with (healthy) individualism, freedom & autonomy, that is encouraged in the west.
11/ I suspect the sweet spot is the middle way. Pragmatism, stoicism, community.

AND a well developed sense of sense, personal responsibility, freedom & agency.


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