Rejecting your LGBTQ+ kid when they come out to you won’t make them not be who they are, it will just make them feel shame and contempt for themselves. Don’t make your love conditional on their compliance with who you expect them to be. Love your child for who they are no matter.
When you reject your kid who’s come out to you, you’re rejecting them at a time when they are vulnerable and need your love and support the most. A time when they’re stepping into a world full of people who reject them too.
If you can’t love your LGBTQ+ kid the same as your straight, cis kid then don’t have kids. Rejection in childhood as a tool of manipulation to force your kid into the identity you want them to be is just giving them lifelong trauma and a high potential for self-harm. Don’t do it!
ps- when your kid comes out to you, don’t give them grief, give them a hug

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13 Oct
Weird how estrogen doesn’t give me terrible symptoms men get from it like depression, brain fog, lethargy, and anxiety. Even weirder how testosterone started giving me those symptoms around natal puberty. 🤔
Even weirder how estrogen makes me feel…normal. For the first time in my life I feel like I’m not spending energy everyday to just…exist. An inner calm developed within just a few weeks of starting estrogen. Mind blowing. I talk about it so much because it was so profound.
Basic disclaimer:

I can only speak for me. Biology has no hard and fast rules. Self-ID is the most accurate way to know someone, and neurological research done in the past 20 yrs on trans ppl confirms that. If you want to know who someone is, just ask them. No brain scan needed.
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11 Oct
If the trans employees were trying to get into a Netflix meeting full of cis people sitting around deciding whether the Chappelle special was transphobic, then that’s good trouble. Trans people should not only be invited and involved in those discussions but also leading them.
If true it’s basically its own parody of a Chappelle skit except the people in the meeting are white, the employees are black, and the question is whether it’s racist. Chappelle’s transphobia has big “pick me” energy, but wait til he finds out how many transphobes are racist.
I mean, can Dave even do a comedy routine anymore without mocking trans women?!? He didn’t even really tell any trans jokes, he just went on a terf rant using terf language to spread transphobia. When he says he’s team terf, believe him. This was strategic and calculated.
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6 Oct
“HRT causes massive health problems in trans adults”

Wait til you find out what untreated gender dysphoria does to trans adults.
The folks trying to build the foundation for HRT restrictions are doing it in such a way that they’ll eliminate HRT for cis people too.

“Sex hormones are dangerous and unhealthy for our bodies” is honestly one hell of a take. Gonadectomies for all I guess?
In regards to the claim in the first tweet let me be completely clear: no it doesn’t.

HRT is safer now than it’s ever been with bioidentical hormones and monitoring to maintain endophysiological stasis, and bodies can run on either. It’s inherent to the design.
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6 Oct
Just because a woman is trans doesn’t mean she has a penis.
Every transphobic ‘debate’ in media about where trans people are allowed to be in the cis world frames the conversation from the perspective of assuming just because a woman is trans she will have a penis.

“Trans women can’t come to our shelter because penis!” is the argument.
FTR trans women with a penis are just as much women as those without and should be treated as such.
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5 Oct
“We need to exclude some of the most marginalized and traumatized women from safe spaces for women because they might look too much like men” is one hell of a take by a so-called ‘ally.’
That was some well-lubricated transmisogyny. It’s much more impressive than the standard fare transphobia most articles spew, which is exactly why it’s so dangerous. A well-known cis gay man who is an outspoken trans ally was even stanning it.
Here’s an idea: sounds to me like folks, traumatized or not, need to stop with the “trans women are men/male BS.” This is a violent lie that’s enabling danger to trans women in the name of safety for cis women. Putting women in danger for the safety of women. Can’t make it up!!
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5 Oct
I don’t identify as a woman.

I don’t want to be a woman.

I tried for decades to NOT be a woman.

But the reality is I just AM a woman!

And only after embracing that truth in a transition that would otherwise be absurd to make was I able to genuinely *appreciate* being a woman.
I didn’t transition to be a woman, I transitioned to be me.

Turns out me is a woman, so a woman I shall be.

(and a bald one for good measure :)
“trans people are nothing but stereotypes, ugh”

I adhered to gender stereotypes when presenting as a man for survival. I spent so much energy thinking about how to act, what to say, but now I just be.

Truth is I didn’t transition into stereotypes, I transitioned out of them.
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