If you have known for 6+ months that you're trans, can I ask you a question about your name?

"W/ similarities" would be like...from Alexandra to Alex, or Brianna to Brian, or Courtney to Curt, or Allen to Lena, or Leah to Elliott (El-leah-t).
Cis people, please retweet! You get +5 ally points, redeemable at any Queerty store near you! 😉
Clarity: this is about what name you use for yourself, not whether you've gone through the legal hoops to change it.

I'm curious about how we name ourselves.
If you just use a letter now, I guess that would be either "entirely new name" or "w/ similarities" if it's the same letter you used to start with?

I'm not sure where to put middle name usage.

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14 Oct
People have criticized Dorland for pushing the Boston Book Festival not to print the story, but it was about to go out to a *whole city*. Dorland's cause is kidney donations, and the story presents them in a negative (and inaccurate) light.
I conjecture that there is a version of the narrative here where Dorland isn't so thoughtlessly driven by revenge that she cruelly threatens an innocent festival, and that it is possible to see her as worried that a life-saving cause was about to get undeserved bad press.
As The New Yorker review pointed out, the story presents living donors as attention-seeking and unlikable, and the recipient regrets the donation because "receiving a kidney robbed her of the social status granted to the terminally ill."

newyorker.com/books/page-tur…
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14 Oct
The amazing thing about fiction written by people who haven't been in hospitals is-

Look, my experience isn't universal but the scariest thing to ME in hospitals is how much people DON'T treat you special even though you're seriously ill or dying.
[Medical Trauma] I've been in situations where I, or a loved one, or even just the person in the next room over was *screaming* in agony, and nurses don't even quicken their step. For you, you're dying. For them, it's just another Tuesday. They're in no hurry.
[Medical Trauma] In some ways, that kind of discipline might be a good thing! You don't want people rushing around, falling over, making mistakes.

But it's inherently scary when you're screaming and thrashing and crying, and the experts in the room are treating it like nothing.
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14 Oct
So the entire "we weren't friends" framing to make this seem like a stalker with a parasocial crush is seeming more like "I acted like her friend to her face but secretly hated her" and that's........not the same thing.
I knew people who thought it was exceedingly inappropriate for Dorland to even email Larson, but the communications coming out show that they regularly talked casually over multiple forms of media! That's not a stranger emailing out of the blue!
They were meeting each other in-person, exchanging personal gifts, and attending funerals for each other's family members! That's not parasocial! That's a friendship! We don't really have another word for it!
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13 Oct
I *think* this means that we need to accept the earth has limits (and stop polluting) and likewise accept that the human body has limits (and stop transitioning).

But this is the weakness of metaphor: sounds good, but says who? Why? How come?
What if I agree the human body has limits but the issue isn't transition care, it's trying to strap rocket boosters onto my feet. The powerful rocket booster foot lobby must be opposed! Etc.
Metaphors are very pretty, but they aren't really logical arguments.
Read 4 tweets
13 Oct
Are TERFs trying to take dinosaurs now, because absolutely the fuck not.
All their usernames have dinosaur emoji in them today, and I refuse.
Every TERF responding to this has dinos in their usernames now. Dinosaurs are ours, goddammit.
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12 Oct
I can't sleep because of a pain flare, so I'm going to talk about electronic organization because I can~
1) I am not going to tell you to close your 67 tabs.

I will say it's a good idea to occasionally mark them down in a text document so that if everything crashes you won't lose the tabs you left open to jog your memory.
2) Emails from reputable retailers have to include an "unsubscribe" link at the bottom. This will cut your spam mail down tremendously.

Also, before deleting, do an email search for all emails from that sender. Then you can delete all their spam at once.
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