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14 Oct, 5 tweets, 1 min read
1. Punch me in the gut but I think I've realised something.
I think younger married K-couples are more happy because they're able to communicate effectively than their parents.
And I think the credit goes to usage of Urdu instead of Kashmiri.
2. Not because Urdu is a beautiful language but because our Urdu vocabulary is exponentially more than our Kashmiri vocabulary.
In Urdu/English, we know more situational phrases than Kaeshur.
3. Our parents might not have been in a situation as ours, so we never know what to say to our spouse in Kashmiri because we never witnessed anyone in that situation before, speaking Kaeshur.
4. The paucity of words always hamper relationships.

As Jaun said,
ek hi hadsa to hai aur wo ye ki aaj tak ~
baat nahin kahi gai baat nahin suni gai

But even if one talks, one should be able communicate without which it'd only exacerbate the situation.
5. Languages are beautiful, you'll always learn something new perusing them.

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13 Oct
1. The adulteress who was forgiven for giving water to the thirsty dog would've never thought that she would be forgiven when she'd be presented before Allah.
2. Imagine her state when she would be told that she was forgiven for something she never thought would amount to anything- feeding a thirsty dog!
3. Many among us would feel same when we would be brought before HIM. Knowing our deeds, we would think that we're doomed but with HIS infinite mercy a seemingly insignificant deed will get us through.

In HIS court, no deed is small enough to be insignificant.
Read 4 tweets
21 Jun
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1. Recently, there was this debate on CH regarding the influence of caste on marriages and what we can do to eradicate this menace from our society.
2. Castes in Kashmir have three basic types of origins

1. The ancestral place you belonged to
2. The profession of your ancestors
3. A nickname given to one of your ancestors
3. One of the main reasons why the caste system survives in any society is because its proponents derive its legitimacy from religion and whenever something has supposedly religious origins, we cannot question the practice.
Read 30 tweets
19 Jun
TW

As the adage goes, Yateem'as Che 40 variyan laar ~ An orphan is chased away for 40 years.

Having to put up with an abuser just because you don't have anyone you can go to! Women in present times need to be financially independent to have an equal bargain.
The saddest part is that when she approached her own brother, he turned her away saying he too beats his wife!
Probably, he didn't want her to become another liability for him.
Muflisi sab bahaar kho ti hai
Mard Ka aetibaat kho ti hai

Poverty really makes you given up on your morals. And it always makes me remind of how well Prophet and his companions behaved in extreme poverty.

They didn't even lose their tempers because of it!
Read 4 tweets
3 Jun
1. Not a leaf falls but that He knows it. And no grain is there within the darknesses of the earth and no moist or dry [thing] but that it is [written] in a clear record. - 6:59

He knows everything, He's Al-Aleem
2. HE who knows about every leaf that falls, about every grain within the earth surely knows what's in your heart.
He's not oblivious of your emotions and sufferings.
He knows exactly what you're feeling right now.
Those premonitions that further your anxiety. HE knows!
3. Therefore, He calls himself Al-waqeel The trustee.
The one to whom you entrust all of your matters. Every single of them.

"This is what my capacity allowed me to do and now, I entrust it to you"
Read 4 tweets
30 May
1. In Kashmiri, we have this term Gaenz Nass.

For those who don’t know the origins, GaenzKhod is a certain place in Srinagar which is famous for animal-hides.
2. So, naturally, that place stinks like anything. If you pass by that place, you can barely stand the smell then what about people living there?
There is this famous story that, one household there got a new daughter-in-law who complained about the smell.
3. During her initial days, she used to roam around covering her face which was a sight of embarrassment when her kith and kin visited her.
So, she took the matter into her own hands and regularly cleaned the place.
Read 14 tweets
30 May
Most of you guys have messed up parents and it shows.

Please don't beat yourself up thinking that you're messed up because you've failed at life, your parents failed at parenting.
Families are crucibles of nurture and love, growing up without love is as good as growing up abused.

As they say, Our body keeps score of both physical and mental scars.
To anyone out there who has been brought up in a broken home, you are really strong, stronger than most of us.
You didn't choose this fight, you might have lost the natural lottery but you're winning just by surviving.
InShaAllah Khair
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