Survival mode can be thought of as a state of living in which managing each day takes pretty much all the capacity you have. And by the time you are in survival mode, you're already working with a significantly depleted capacity.
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You can end up in survival mode because: 1. The demands on you have been heavy and unrelenting and have exhausted your spare capacity. 2. Your capacity has been diminished by illness/stress* (mental or physical). 3. A combination of both of the above over time.
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In reality often things may start with either 1 or 2 but then over time the other one will get involved so you end up with 3 anyway.
* Re: stress, it's important to consider environmental stresses including poverty, precarity and discrimination (ableism, racism, etc).
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When you're in survival mode, it feels like your day is constantly full, either with things you have to do or with thinking about things you have to do. There is little wiggle room to do anything that feels non-essential (rest and pleasure often fall into this category)
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It feels like you are just about able to hold things together or that it is taking all your effort to just stay in the same place and not slip back or fall.
I think about survival mode as a state where the cost of functioning is very high.
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You could also think of it a bit like being burnt out, not just by your job, but by your life.
There are some fairly typical indicators of living in a state of high cost of functioning and many of them relate to there being no spare capacity to allow any flexibility.
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A usually inevitable consequence of being in survival mode is that life becomes increasingly restricted and regimented. Anything deemed non-essential gets dropped as all available capacity is carefully marshalled to manage what is essential.
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Unexpected events and demands can cause intense anxiety, panic and even collapse. Often one is borrowing time from one's own future 'I'll just push through this now and skip X tomorrow or catch up on sleep on the weekend.'
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Tragically many of the 'non-essential' activities given up are the ones that would help replenish one e.g. rest, pleasurable activities, socialisation.
As time goes on, it becomes harder to change the situation because change requires spare capacity and spare time.
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One can live in survival mode for a long time and many people do because they have no choice (poverty, mental illness, survivors of severe trauma). But years of living in survival mode reshapes (& impoverishes) life to make it as survivable as possible.
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Through COVID-19 many of us have been living in survival mode and feel the near constant weariness from it.
What can you do about it? I am not the kind of psychiatrist to offer simple tips to solve complex problems but some suggestions that may ease things...
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...all prefaced with 'if you can': 1. Try and do something that gives you respite/pleasure. 2. Try not to feel guilty about doing 1. 3. Find an opportunity to take a break. 4. Let something(s) fail or fall by the wayside.
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'I don't know why she won't give me a chance, I have so much love to give.'
'Oh, ok. How much love exactly?'
'So much, I would do anything for her!'
'And that's the kind of thing women find attractive in a man?'
'It should be!'
'I see...
1/15
...anything else apart from the abundance of love?'
'What?'
'I mean, "I have so much love to give" is not wha- I mean, not all, you'd put on your dating profile is it?'
'I'm not making a dating profile, I know she's the one!'
'The destined recipient of your abundant love?'
2/15
'Exactly! If she'd only give me a chance!'
'You have to admit it is a difficult opening gambit right? "Hi! I am X, I have so much love to give, please give me a chance!". Could come off as slightly stalker-ish?'
'Look, if she could just see how much love I-'
🧵 The labour of looking after:
Given that we've just had Christmas*, I thought it might be a good time to think about the people in our lives who do a lot of looking after other people.
*Also works with other religious festivals and days of the year.
1/14
Most of us look after someone in our lives (non-humans included of course), many of us are carers of children, other family members & friends. Some of us choose to look after other people around us, because we can, or we find it rewarding, or it's a part of our self-value
2/14
This 🧵 however is more about those of who have simply had to do this, and the huge amount of unappreciated and undervalued emotional and physical labour it continually involves.
3/14
Setting myself a very minor challenge of writing a story in 5-6 tweet installments. I have the first 2 lines but little else and challenge is to write regular installments with no plot line upfront. It may be mildly diverting.
Here goes.
1. To his great disappointment, AK woke up. Fuck. He was still here.
He dragged himself out of the bed and to the window and peered through the blinds. The last ember of hope fizzled out. Fuck. The world was still here too.
10035.
2. He went to the dresser, picked up the safety pin and neatly punched in hole to join the 10034 that he had marked in neat, tightly spaced rows on the large bar of soap that was the sole item on the surface. It was the tidiest surface in the room. The other one was a mess.
Personally I think the Game of Thrones reference was really a meta-reference to the violent misogyny of the series, and I think in that sense it was fairly spot on, obtuse perhaps, but not clumsy. 1/5
It's a bit tricky with public statements but usually apologies (& 'apologies') give you a good sense of what the person thinks the offence (and its scale) was and who was affected.
This reads like he thinks he made a minor boo-boo & the people affected are those who are hurt.
2/5
And that could very possibly be true.
Entitled people in positions of power believe their positions and opinions are reasonable, justified and true. Sure saying it may not be the done thing but only because people are too chicken/polite to do those things.
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Btw, we do this all the time as social beings, whether it is to determine our own status with regards to other people or making decisions about who should have power. I would think of these assessments in these terms rather than in terms of judging individual people.
2/10
One can think of these as the heuristics that one employs in this regad and every culture will have it's own set.
Some examples that may be relevant to many cultures:
being well spoken, confidence, self-assurance, assertiveness, having held positions of power/influence.
🧵 on the paper
The ‘rhetorical concession’: a linguistic analysis of debates and arguments in mental health
Garner B, Kinderman P, Davis P, J Mental Health
The core of this paper is the analysis of 6 blogs from 6 different psychiatrists and psychologists.
1/23
I'm going through this the way that I would look at any paper i.e. aims, methods and results and then look at the contextualisation and discussion to see what they add.
2/23
Declaration: I do not know anything about linguistic analysis and a bit of background reading has not helped me understand the precise analysis here. Would be grateful for the thoughts of linguistic analysis experts especially on whether the aim requires such analysis.