There was this couple, the wife was a very successful lawyer and he was also successful in his job, working in an oil company. They looked like a power couple but the lady came to the marriage with a mindset that she can't have her rights trampled, she must always point it out
she was a very intelligent woman, he was also very intelligent, so, they would argue about everything, nobody backs down. Every thing down to roles in the house were shared, it then boiled down to responsibilities. In the process of claiming right, the love was lost and the drive
to go home to his wife was gone. It got so bad that he finally filed for divorce. That union had several problems:
That woman had a notion that nobody should take advantage of her even if nobody had taken advantage of her and she let her guards up.
-they both knew too much to the
Point that they didn't know how to learn anymore.
- The man thought that he would have a wife that will cook and do what traditional wives do while they romantically assist each other but she wasn't getting any of that.
-they both had pride and ego, they turned something that was
supposed to be very beautiful into a roller coaster of regrets. There are more but I don't want to add too much;
The lesson here is:
-at every point in your relationship, one of you have to be the one that backs down to fight another day
-you should get into relationships with
open minds, not drawing your swords and being all defensive.
-you have to decide to be right or be happy. At times, after claiming that your victory, you might not get that desired satisfaction, and at the end of the day it might all not be worth it.
- the Bible
said; 'they were both naked and were not ashamed' marriage is where your vulnerability is supposed to be evident, you can't be putting up armories and shields with your partners. Some men spend longer time at work not because they love their jobs but because their jobs are more
tolerable than their homes. Don't let those men that were backing you up on my last thread deceive you, when you start claiming your right on everything, they would soon understand how easier said than done it is and start getting frustrated. Think about this carefully!

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