A woman who cannot soothe a man when he is mad, does not deserve a man who can soothe her when she is sad

Men refrain from crying, women refrain from raging

Simple rules.

A man must be a rock, and a woman must be a comfort.

Sounds unfair, but it's actually quite complementary
A woman doesn't want to see her man falling apart unable to handle things, even if he feels genuine suffering. He has to soldier through.

In the same breath, getting mad at a man who's angry with you even if you feel it's unjust only makes him worse. She has to soldier through.
No woman who is sad and crying wants a man there who is also sad and crying.

No man who is angry and argumentative wants a woman being angry and argumentative with him.

Men have to suppress their pain, women have to suppress their anger.

This is how we care for each other.
Sometimes women get sentimental or sad about something, and her man is there for her. Sometimes it irritates the man, sometimes it upsets him too. Doesn't matter. He handles it. He comforts her. He makes her feel better.

This is him playing peacemaker, being her comfort.
Sometimes men get mad or intolerant about something feeling disrespected in some kind of way. Sometimes this irritates the woman or makes her sad. Doesn't matter. She has to handle it and comfort him. She makes him feel better.

This is her playing peacemaker, being his comfort.
Essentially, it's this simple:

Whenever a woman is sad, her emotions take priority.

Whenever a man is mad, his emotions take priority.

Do not dismiss and neglect a sad woman.

Do not infuriate and aggravate an angry man.

Both are suffering.

Know your role and help them.
Men don't have the right to sadness that women have.

Women don't have the right to anger that men have.

Men don't get to mope around being sad and needing comfort.

Women don't get to fly off the handle angry all the time and be soothed.

That's a role reversal of energies.
If you're a woman who expects her emotions to take priority when she's sad

But also expects her emotions take priority when he's mad

What you are conveying is that your emotions always take priority.

There is a lack of sufficient give and take in peacemaking.

Won't end well.
There is an art to handling a sad woman and an art to handling an angry man.

Each sex should learn these things. Both require patience and empathy. Both require prioritising someone other than yourself.

You can't monopolise all of the emotional priority all of the time.
Even if it's not exactly 50/50, and the woman gets upset more often than the man gets mad, or the man gets mad more often than the woman gets upset, as long as you're there for each other when the other is in need - you're doing it right. Never expect 50/50. Unrealistic.
After they have calmed down, and you have got over any irritation their outburst may have caused you, share your concerns and probe gently. Why is she getting upset so easily? Why is he getting mad so easily? Approach it with the lens of trying to understand the underlying cause.
Don't approach it directly *WHILST* they're feeling what they feel. You will just make it worse. They don't want to be challenged or dismissed when they're in that state. They want comfort, and their feelings are legitimate even if you didn't appreciate them.
Only ever approach it once those intense feelings have passed.

And don't resent them for inconveniencing you. Forgive them for their shortcomings. This is the price you both pay and the burden you both face if you wish to appropriately care for one another.
Finally men, you are allowed to get angry.

Nobody doubts the legitimacy of a woman's emotions, but many will mischaracterise a man's anger as abuse or some other nonsense.

This is false.

Any woman worth a crap knows its her duty to bring you comfort in your worst moments.
Some men anger more easily than others, and generally one should not be quick to nor prone to anger over the trivial. A certain degree of stoicism is necessary to be an effective leader. But male aggression and intolerance has its place too. Never let anyone tell you otherwise.
On the flipside, some women are more prone to sadness than others. Some people are more high maintenance than others.

A man prone to anger + a woman prone to sadness are both emotionally high maintenance.

But men prone to sadness and women prone to anger are both to be avoided.
A man prone to sadness is too much in his feminine energy, and a woman prone to anger is too much within her masculine energy

Neither will make effective, robust spouses you can cooperate with in life. They will fail to deliver when you need them most.
Well, I think that about covers all the bases!

I hope you enjoyed reading this thread, and that it gave you pause for thought, or helped you make some vital distinctions that help you better understand your relationships.

Thanks for reading!
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