Yesterday, my 16y.o.’s exploration of our new neighborhood via skateboard ended with a high-speed, face-first collision with a telephone poll.

Do I regret letting her go?

Of course not. Exploring is healthy. Skateboarding is fun. I want her to live fully, free from…
… limitations imposed by my fears about what *might* happen - and that involves tolerating a certain amount of risk.

Could it have been worse? Sure— her head could’ve met the concrete instead of the more forgiving wood of the telephone pole. But it didn’t, in part b/c she…
…has been skating since she was 7 and has learned how to bail and how to fall. She wouldn’t know those things had I been too scared to let her try. She loves to skate, just like I loved gymnastics & my oldest loved swimming — both theoretically ‘risky’ but rewarding pursuits…
So what’s the lesson? What we learned from this experience is that she needs to tighten her trucks and maybe invest in a new deck - not that she should avoid skating or exploring at all costs b/c there’s a possibility she may fall.

Hell, she could fall just walking to school…
Learning to embrace life — not fear it — is critical to raising confident, competent, fulfilled humans. Teaching them to hide from a seasonal virus that won’t hurt them isn’t the way forward for humanity..
As for my daughter, she’s home today with a headache, feeling like you do the day after an accident — stiff and sore.

The splinters are removed, the bruises are iced—the ego is still recovering—but she’s got one helluva shiner to show off when she goes back out there tomorrow.

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11 Dec
Think of all the beautiful moments of your life that happened in-person:

- meeting your very first best friend
- your first date w/ the love of your life
- impromptu travel that changed your worldview
- 2am conversations that made you feel so connected and understood…

- a performance or presentation which was utterly terrifying but opened doors that were previously shut
- a crowded concert/rally/event where you shared in a moment so much greater than yourself
- witnessing your grand baby enter the world
- comforting your grandma as she left it
Now consider how many of those life-affirming moments/events/experiences people have foregone over the past two years.

And how many more people will forego if restrictions persist…
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Fear got us into this mess.

Courage will get us out.

Be brave…

What does that mean?

It means don’t self-censor, don’t go along with mandates and policies you know are wrong, put your principles ahead of your comfort, do things that terrify you, take short-term risks for a long-term benefit…
Think critically, use good judgement, speak up but also listen.

And when you know you’re right, stand up even when every single other person in the room is sitting down.

Yes, there will be costs and it’s not up to me to tell you which blows to absorb but…
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I’m on an @AmericanAir flight as I type & the crew has spent 90% of the time on the intercom delivering repeated warnings about letting masks slip, including a stern rebuke that two reminders will result in authorities meeting you at the gate & inclusion on a no-fly list…
What I don’t get is that all but the small, fearful minority know that masks are a mere performance whose only utility is *placating the feelings* of an emotionally dysregulated subset of the population…
which includes people with strong, self-righteous political/tribal allegiances, people who overestimate the actual risk from Covid, and people who are inclined - for whatever reason - to be society’s self-appointed hall monitors…
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It makes you wonder why we didn’t follow those tenets of public health and, instead, decided mandates, porous masks, lockdowns, and sowing panic was the solution this time.

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Last night, my youngest went Trick-or-Treating. She came home puffy-eyed & quiet.

She told me she had an ok night but at one of the last houses, an old man was handing out full-size candy bars & when it was her turn, he sneered at her & told her she looked like a ‘punk’…
She was dressed as one of The Outsiders - a homemade ensemble, b/c store-bought costumes - like everything else - were in short supply and she didn’t decide to go until the last minute.

She was worried she was too old…
Lu’s last normal trick-or-treating experience was when she was 8. In 2019 when she was 9, she was super sick and couldn’t even say “trick-or-treat”. We had to stop after two houses and go home so she could rest.

In 2020, Halloween didn’t happen…

So I encouraged her to go…
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Puppies and orphans is a good start.…
In case you missed the puppies.…
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