Thread by @RohitashwT

Ashrama vyavastha or system of stages of life as per sanatan vedic dharm has 4 ashramas or stages of 25 years each.
1. Brahmacharya (student)
2. Grihastha (householder)
3. Vanaprastha (forest dweller)
4. Sannyasa (renunciate)

Clearly marriages are not advised before 25 years.

Brahmacharya Ashram is the first stage of life.

It is marked compete when one has completed education and acquired wisdom (adulting).

Let's call it attainment of stable career & profession.

Grahsat is 2nd stage which begins AFTER successful completion of Brahmcharya.

Grahast is when you pursue romantic life & your 'desire' of progeny. We call it married life.

3rd ashram is Vanprasta, which starts after completion of grahast.

Completion of grahast is the point where you have enabled sucsseful completion of brahmcharya for your offspring.

In other words, the only role & task one has to complete in grahast is to ensure that his/her kids get quality education and nutrition.

The moment kids start their profession and romantic life, your grahast ashram ends.

This is beginning of your Vanprastha ashram.

Vanprastha (Jungle dweller) is beginning of a new phase of life where you start practicing living off jungle - living ecologically in harmony with mother earth.

You start cutting down your 'carbon emissions'.

You start cutting down your 'social' and 'emotional' emmisons.

4th ashram is 'Sanyas'.
This starts when you have completed the Vanprastha, which is complete detachment or independence from emotional or social means.

You go off grid to jungle. Live last phase in solitude in Himalayas as a sanyasi.

Meditate till your last breath.

Now let's read this vyavastha in a different light.

Vedic sanatan dharam says that one shall marry when one is academically, socially, emotionally & financially ready!

It has nothing to do with your menstrual age or sex.

We are not a TRIBAL RELIGION.

We are sanatan.

Logic and wisdom also says that one shall marry (Co-habitate with romantic partner for reproduction) once you are stable in career & have social/emotional wisdom.

This is the beauty of Sanatan Dharam.

The most logical and rational one.

Just focus on giving 'good education and nutrition to you kids.

You don't have to accumulate wealth or strive to provide luxuries to your kids. The root of corruption. Dritrastra behaviour.

One must start detaching or interfering in day-to-day activities of family with Vanprastha.

Parents shall start retiring socially, financially & emotionally, when kids marry!

Your health becomes your priority.

Live off jungle - Vanprastha.
Reduce your carbon footprints.

In brahmcharya & grahast we suck off from nature.

We all have significant carbon footprints.

We add to environmental. social & emotional pollution just to satisfy our desire of progeny - reproduction.

We slow down the process in Vanprastha. Start giving to nature.

We all have gone horribly wrong.

We learnt nothing from itihaas of mahabharat.

We start our romantic life before having wisdom & skills required for survival.

We consider 'reproduction' as a divine right. It is NOT!

High reproductive rate is a tribal requirement

This tribal mindset of reproducing early and maximum controls our cognitive behaviour.

We confuse love (romantic) with sex & reproduction.
As grandparents as well, we suffer from same - Vansh agge chalo syndrome.

Brahmcharya and Grahast overlaps.
This overlap is marrying without attain wisdom & stability in carrer.

Then we start carving for elongation of grahast. We don't want it to ever end. Keep reproducing & interfering in lives of offspring beyond educational pursuance.

Most of the matrimonial disputes are because of this reason only.
The over laps.

Then as cranky in-laws & parents we are forcefully enters vanprastha.

We retire & witness our kids ignoring u. This is vanprastha.

Either plan, execute & accept it or life will force the ashrams on you.

Successful person is one who can plan & execute vanprastha ashram.

If brahmcharya & grahast are not planned properly then Vanprastha arrives as a forced ashram.

Journey becomes a struggle.

We crave & pray for peace - aspire or desire for Sanyas.

We can't forcefully attain sanyas without planning.

We keep cribbing, struggling in Vanprast.

Overlaps of first 3 ashrams gives struggle and painfull life.

Vanprastha is marked by diseases and aging.

We crave for peace or sanyaas which arrives a millionth of second before death.

We all go through all four ashrama irrespective of caste, creed, gender or religion.

Sanatan Dharam is a vyavastha to plan & execute these four ashrams well.

There is no escape.

Santan Dharam is only savior.

We are all born sanatani and we all die sanatani.

We may or may not live Sanatan.