🧵 on complementarianism vs my relationship:
Years ago I used to listen to Matt Chandler fairly frequently and was horrified when I heard a sermon from him once in which he said that he “let” his wife win at small decisions such as what music to play, where to eat, etc…
This, he said, was because if they faced a big decision where they disagreed, he was “the one who had to make that call.”
I’ve often brought this story up since then to explain part of why complementarianism is defunct in practice.
Why in the world would you marry someone whose opinion you do not value enough to consider at length on major life decisions? Why marry someone whose ability to hear from God and act wisely you don’t ultimately trust or lean on? Why would you want a subordinate and not a partner?
Anyway, today I was telling Ben about a decision I’m trying to make and my thought process concerning it, and he said, “I’m happy to be a sounding board if you need one, but of course I trust your discernment.”
And I realized for the 1000th time that I am with the right person.

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14 Feb 21
I would love to hear your preaching Hot Takes on this Lord’s day.

In exchange, I will divulge the spiciest of mine and @benjamindcrosby’s below. (Ben’s are more reflective of Episcopal preaching and mine of Pentecostal.)
1) Your sermon is not the place to display your half-remembered historical-critical knowledge from seminary. No one cares whether this was originally J, E, D, or P.
2) People are not interested in cutesy stories about your life.
3) Preach with the text, not against it.
4) You may be smarter than the human author of the text, but you are not smarter than the Holy Spirit.
5) a decade moratorium on the use of the “Wild Geese” poem in preaching
6) Preach on the texts, don’t just say random things.
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