in convo with @DownsideUpKat about low-spoon ways to deescalate & acknowledge the kind of twitter conflict that clearly looks like 2 [foggy] brains disagreeing past each other*.
it’s my bedtime so my best idea is “looks like we’ve been sucked into an Inverted Alanis Situation”
it’s my bedtime so my best idea is “looks like we’ve been sucked into an Inverted Alanis Situation”
*you know, like when person b commiserates/agrees with a post from person a, and person a interprets a very different tone (often completely understandably, with all the context cues that twitter can strip) and responds with Much Hostility
anyway I really invite everyone to share better ideas! (or worse ideas, for lolz!)
probably don’t use my V Excellent Alanis Meme in an actual conflict situation, but I guess please do feel free to qt from this thread when you sincerely want to communicate that you think This Thing Is Happening & It Definitely Could Be Your Own Or Everyone’s Fault but words bad.
I’m NOT saying this applies to every conflict, but sometimes I think we need a way to say “hey I’m not operating on all cylinders right now but I really related to what you were saying, can we call this a no-fault collision and bow out for the sake of our nervous systems?”
(and not just saying it but also being able to hear & believe when people say it. which, of course, I can’t promise would never be used by bad actors I guess.)
anyway on disability twitter sometimes the gremlin sabotaging a compassionate outreach attempt is named like Impaired Word Retrieval or Aphasia and those gremlins love to fuck around with clear communication.
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