Thread by @DoctorViviana

If you're still here! #marriedatfirstsight #MAFS

First of all, let me say that the VAST majority of us are appalled by the behaviors/words we have seen towards Chris. This is very encouraging because it shows that we are capable of recognizing unhealthy patterns of relating in others...

...Being heartbroken for those who aren't experiencing a good start is being empathetic. Being OUTRAGED is too!...

Regardless of what (some) of you may think, I'm an actual relationship therapist and have been for 19 years. I have seen healthy and unhealthy behaviors in my office and, being human, I have wanted to "rescue/save/remove/kick out" partners from their marriages...

But...I can't. Truth is, when you're talking about consenting adults...there is very very little I or anyone can do other than advise and counsel and talk talk, talk about what you hope for them and point out what I, as a their trusted professional see is unhealthy/abusive...

In this situation, Alyssa and Chris have been married maybe 1 week and neither has VERBALLY decided to leave the marriage or the process. It's fair to assume that based off of what we all saw on tonight's episode...

Both Alyssa and Chris do not currently feel that their is really any hope that their marriage could end up more than a marriage in paper. Because this is not just for TV...it's a legally binding marriage...and they are contractually obligated to allow the producers to...

Document at least part of it, we are all in a bit of a holding pattern while we all, including the 3 matchmakers, wait on either if their decisions. It made/makes my head/heart hurt when this happens in any of the relationship I've witnessed. Being in limbo is just terrible and

Witnessing it all play out on a very real platform for the world to see should make us all feel for the parties involved...and those who love them...

Bwfire I move onto my thoughts on what Alyssa MAY be thinking...I have to say is that I'm super relieved and pleased to see that everyone is jointly on the same page about what a healthy relationship DOES NOT look like 😀 and...

I'm glad y'all are all just as eager to see these 2 get to a better place asap...now on to my thoughts on Alyssa's current actions...

My thoughts are- Alyssa wants the love of a lifetime just like everyone else who decides to apply to be #MAFS. And I felt that from the moment we all got to meet her through the matchmaking process. But what NONE OF US can ever predict is what happens when you don't immediately..

Feel the stomach flip. It's the reason why the 3 of us are clutching our phones when the weddings are taking place and repeatedly asking for updates in real time. But even when the flip happens, as we have all seen, the worrying doesn't end for us....

I believe Alyssa went into this with all the good intentions and I THINK, like so many others, she thought, "Well if it doesn't work out with us, at least I can meet amazing women and we will join the ranks of all of the other #mafsbrides who came before us and make...

The best of it. I actually think that is not the worst way to look at this process. BUT because at the point, she is refusing to communicate with her husband, she is refusing to be respectful to him, and she is disrespecting the process that has produced many loving families...

I'm hopeful that this awful situation will be addressed accordingly. I have never had any reason to believe that anyone involved with this process is into this...

But...I guess you'll have to see for yourselves. THANK YOU for your passion and interest in love! I believe it's what makes the world go round 💞
THANK YOU for sticking around tonight!