there's a good reason for a semi-unspoken social stigma against people taking out their phones when present with each other: it doesn't feel good!
but that's because people typically contract their awareness when using their phone
but that's because people typically contract their awareness when using their phone
if you are nearby someone with their awareness contracted, so they stop being aware of you and have all their attention focused on something else, that feels awful (albeit in a subtle way)
in that moment, you don't exist to them. it's like their consciousness is saying, you don't matter. we can perceive that and it doesn't feel good
however! if you keep your awareness awareness expanded, even while you do something else (like checking your phone) - that doesn't feel bad!
it actually feels surprisingly good and nourishing. like you're in a house with your family and a group of friends and you hear everyone else puttering around the house while you're doing whatever it is that makes you happy
in the last year i've practiced this a lot- using my phone while keeping my awareness expanded. i'm not perfect at it but i've gotten pretty decent
https://twitter.com/metaLulie/status/1504526868623593478
i've also been around other people who can do this (whether with the phone or other tasks) and it is *so* much nicer
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