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Dr. Monica Cox

@DrMonicaCox

Apr 25

I don’t talk about this enough so here goes.

When you push against a system and it is an unjust system, you must prepare yourself mentally for the isolation and resistance that comes with that.

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Activism and whistleblowing looks sexy on TV, but it’s hard on your mind and wellbeing.

You experience the rawness of humanity when you challenge oppression systems, and it’s often not pretty.

You see the core of people, not the facade of professionalism.

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When you call out an unjust system, the attacks and responses become personal. Who you are and what you represent is scrutinized. You must brace yourself for how brutal the response against your core will be.

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Dr. Monica Cox

@DrMonicaCox

Dec 16, 2021

I think about bell hooks dying at 69.

When I was a dept chair, I thought about my life expectancy often.

I thought about the stress of working with a small group of people who never wanted me to be hired and who tortured me daily. 1/

I thought about the people who sat by and watched as the torture happened.

I thought about having to go to therapy, get coaches, mentors, and an acupuncturist to make it in an environment where toxicity was normal. 2/

I thought about losing my father and not being able to grieve because I didn't have an assistant for 5 months bc it took so long to hire people.

I thought about being pregnant & having a UTI the entire pregnancy as I tried to convince people to do their jobs. 3/

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Dr. Monica Cox

@DrMonicaCox

Jul 2, 2021

Sometimes I ask myself if I have become that bitter Full Professor. Stupid academic crap gets on my nerves and my tolerance for games is gone.

I think I came into academia kind and trusting, and I have gotten beat up. 1/

If academia was my spouse, I would have kicked that joker to the curb YEARS ago. No person should be in a relationship with someone who says one thing and does another. Academia has been a gaslighter. 2/

Academia attracts some really unethical folks. I wasn’t ready for that. I’m talking about folks who profess morals and values as they practice racism, sexism, and ageism.

Guess what though? Nobody calls it out. Academia is a place where there aren’t always real rules. 3/

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Dr. Monica Cox

@DrMonicaCox

Jun 30, 2021

#RealTalk

Today I will tell you how POC/WOC leaders can be harmed in a system even if they are in charge. 1/

The Withholders

People who work around and for you can keep information from you that you need to do your job well. They make you have to learn info from scratch. It wastes your time and increases the likelihood you won’t succeed. 2/

Two-faced allies

People say one thing to you because you are the boss and another behind your back. They don’t know which way the culture is moving so they stay in the middle. They hurt and help at the same time. 3/

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Dr. Monica Cox

@DrMonicaCox

Dec 1, 2020

This morning I pray for the incoming dean in my org.

I can’t tell you the number of times I have been up at this hour crying and crying out to God because of bad situations in this org. Today I am up for a good reason. 1/

I pray that in the midst of administrative chaos, she will find rest. She will be surrounded by wise counsel and people who want success for her as much as she wants success for herself. 2/

I pray that people in this larger organization will educate themselves about intersectionality and what it means. May they remain humble as they are supervised by a Black women & may they seek understanding in new ways that allow them to grow. 3/

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