I greatly appreciate all criticism of adoption coming from #AdopteeVoices.
I do want to caution queer people in particular that fostering queer teenagers, while far from perfect, is still something very much needed and something you can probably do more easily than you think.
I do want to caution queer people in particular that fostering queer teenagers, while far from perfect, is still something very much needed and something you can probably do more easily than you think.
I know from firsthand experience that fostering queer youth doesn't make you a saint, and you don't really save anyone bc that's not how life works.
It does however, have the potential to bring you great joy and fun when it's going well (alongside, admittedly, a some pain).
It does however, have the potential to bring you great joy and fun when it's going well (alongside, admittedly, a some pain).
At the very least you probably can give someone a safe place to stay and be an example of a queer adult who isn't dead, in jail, or addicted who would otherwise be shuffled around group homes bc there genuinely aren't families who will take them in.
The requirements to do this may be less than you think (which in some ways sucks and is sad). The highest bar to clear is having a home with a seperate bedroom for the youth. If you have that, an income, and can pass a background check most likely they'll want you.
If you think living with you would be better than shuttling between group homes and slowly losing hope for a normal life, you're probably right, and your local foster care agency will probably agree!
Transfemmes and genderqueer AMAB teens are in particular need of homes, because of course.
I've fostered two, and hopefully at some point I'll have spare bedroom again and foster more! DM me any time if you want to know more, it was the coolest thing I've ever done.
I've fostered two, and hopefully at some point I'll have spare bedroom again and foster more! DM me any time if you want to know more, it was the coolest thing I've ever done.
The foster care system is awful, please join it is a really hard pitch, but it's the right one for queer teens who need a place to call home.
Oh- just realized that, because of who else is talking about adoption, this could come across as my saying that people struggling with infertility should foster teens.
NO!
NO!
I think all kinds of people should consider letting a teen chill in their house for a yr or two, but doing it solely bc of infertility is a bad idea. Teens aren't babies! People coping with infertility likely need time to grieve the lost possibilities before even considering it.
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