I don’t talk about this enough so here goes.

When you push against a system and it is an unjust system, you must prepare yourself mentally for the isolation and resistance that comes with that.

1/
Activism and whistleblowing looks sexy on TV, but it’s hard on your mind and wellbeing.

You experience the rawness of humanity when you challenge oppression systems, and it’s often not pretty.

You see the core of people, not the facade of professionalism.

2/
When you call out an unjust system, the attacks and responses become personal. Who you are and what you represent is scrutinized. You must brace yourself for how brutal the response against your core will be.

3/
When you call out a system, people don’t just listen logically and say, “That makes sense. We are changing immediately.”

Everything that has kept that system unjust pushes against you.

Pushing you out is one of the most common responses.

4/
Pushing you out can be anything from refusing to acknowledge you to lying on you. It could be excluding you from opportunities.

The pushing out of someone from a workplace is mean-spirited and methodical.

It breaks a lot of people who choose to fight back.

5/
Workplaces allow this meanness. It sits back and watches as hateful people who get a little power decide that someone who wants an environment to be equitable doesn’t belong.

Their hostility should be called out but isn’t bc others are afraid they’ll get pushed out too.

6/
I dedicate this thread to people who keep moving as they are iced professionally. I speak to those of you who get up every day and go to a place that isn’t healthy for you and doesn’t build you up. I speak to people whose workplaces have harmed you.

7/
I speak to those of you who wonder if you will ever be valued again in a workplace.

The answer is yes.

One day you are going to enter a place of joy in your profession. People will know you and value you. They will build you up and be thankful you work in their midst.

8/
Until you enter that place, remember your gifts. Hold on to your core. Speak life into yourself.

You deserve all the support a workplace can bring. You are worthy. You are valuable. You are needed.

9/9

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