Thread by @CosmicSoulPoet

Let’s talk about trauma bonds which can form in toxic relationships. One pattern is:the person seeking energy supply will mirror back some of your most foundational personality and character traits, including communication styles as well as expressions and phrases of empathy.

These are the traits that feel most familiar to you, because they are part of -your- essence, character and personality…so you will naturally feel safe and drop your guard down. This will cause you to feel a deep bond of familiarity with the person. They may feel like family.

Then when the person who chooses/manifests/creates cluster B (such as narcissism, sociopath, etc) patterns may subtly emotionally/energetically pull away and begin to show less interest. Sometimes they will do this abruptly, and sometimes slow and steady.

An emotional “papercut” may seem so small, but 1000 of them, especially in your soul, becomes incredibly painful at so many confusing levels. It’s one of those things where every little thing feels overreactive to bring up but they build up heavily.

And by the time you bring it up as a pattern of concern, they may say you are being overly sensitive and request examples, which they then may say is you not being forgiving or compassionate or understanding (invalidation)- which is not the case.

This is part of the gaslighting and projecting patterns. Be aware: covert narcissism is some of the most difficult to identify and is most often hidden behind the guise of religion or hyper spirituality. This can create cognitive dissonance in spiritual seekers.

When you realize you need to draw a boundary or leave, you may feel that you are betraying “family” or even abandoning yourself- because of the original mirroring that you felt safe/familiar connecting to, even though you would not behave in such current experienced ways.

So then you may endure/overlook offensive circumstances that betray or violate your inner conscience compass. Your energy connection/exchange can create psychological, emotional and physical addiction cycles to this person. You may begin to feel you are crazy and even try harder.

Remember, you would not allow yourself to behave this way to another person, so even though they mirrored some of your qualities to you at the beginning, this pattern is no longer in resonance with healthy intimacy. Key: Always include yourself in the Golden Rule.

As always, we hold the power for what we allow and enable in our lives. When we realize that a pattern is no longer healthy for us, we are responsible to do our part to create something else or to accept that it is time to disconnect and move forward with Love and life Wisdom.

#LessonsLearned #Wisdom #HealingAfterAbuse