Thread by @daleahawthorne1

Some time ago I put some notes together on in my personal notebook on achieving adulthood, based upon some of my experience with the young adults I’ve dealt with at work. Here are my thoughts. #AdultingAndStuff #adulthood #adulescence

1. Learn to live and partner with another adult, to pursue common goals and activities. This should be a roommate or close relative rather than a romantic interest or another person of the opposite sex.

2. Learn to understand the opposite sex outside romantic situations. Observe the common and uncommon habits and characteristics of your friends and relatives of the opposite sex in your daily life, so that you can get some understanding before a romantic haze hits.

3. Learn some basics on cooking and food preparation, simply as preparation for being able to run one’s own household. Learn also how to clean and take care of your home, starting with your first dorm room and apartment.

4. Learn how to handle money by following a budget, looking for bargains and working and saving ahead for major purchases.

5. Learn respect for others, and how to work with those who are different from you. This is crucial for being able to pursue your own dreams of career and for success on a job.

6. Respect for the property of others. Don’t damage or destroy what is not yours intentionally or through negligence. Provide compensation if you damage something which isn’t yours. If you borrow something, remember to return it, and return it in the same condition or better.

7. Learn respect for the privacy of others. The heartbreaks and embarrassments of others are matters for compassion and confidentiality, and are not necessarily things that you need to know.

8. Learn respect for the time and schedules of others, by punctuality and sending regrets and cancellations if unable to keep an appointment.

9. Learn respect for the feelings of others, by avoiding unfair fighting, lashing out at trivial offenses or rudely refusing mild suggestions.

10. Learn respect for the convictions and opinions of others. A difference of opinion is not a reason for a relentless battle of wills, and scorning, baiting, ridiculing and browbeating someone with whom you disagree does not lend credibility to your position, but the opposite.

11. Learn how to broaden your interests and understanding by asking questions, being willing to learn new things, and being willing to continue to try again if you meet with any kind of initial failures.

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