When a person gets married and takes their partner’s family name, they do not refer to their previous name as a deadname, why not? Even people who change their name for any other reason aside from being trans, do not refer to this as a deadname.
Dead names make a lot more sense when you view them from the angle of death as an obsession. It indicates that a person is destroyed, and unreclaimable and it’s used as an anchor to keep trans people grounded in their trans identity.
I want to tell everyone what they took from us, what irreversible really means, and what that reality looks like for us.
No one told me any of what I’m going to tell you now.
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I have no sensation in my crotch region at all.
You could stab me with a knife and I wouldn't know. The entire area is numb, like it's shell shocked and unable to comprehend what happened, even 4 years on.
I tore a sutra 4 days post recovery, they promised to address it, i begged them in emails to fix it, they scorned me instead.
Years later, I have what looks like a chunk of missing flesh next to my neo-vagina, it literally looks like someone hacked at me.
Hello world, I wish I could show my face, but the truth is I'm more ashamed of how I look now then ever before.
We place flowers at scenes of heartache and loss, which is my profile picture will be a Tulip or a Rose.
I have immense loss I'd like to share my story. #detrans
I'm in my later 30's now and I transitioned when i was 25.
I have been on hormones for all that time, and had penile inversion with scrotal graft nearly 5 years ago.
Im mildly incontinent for life now, and though i had a decent result. Its nothing like the real thing.
As a kid, I was highly sensitive and gender non-conforming. I wasn't flamboyant or overtly gay, but I knew deep down from a young age I was gay and deeply terrified of it.