Thread by @Chimsky1

You'll be just fine.

A thread...

Marriage is the only union where two people, born of different parents, belonging to different cultures, circumstances
maybe even different countries are expected to suddenly bond, live in the same space and have no quarrels.

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This is a strange expectation as even people born of the same monogamous parents, in the same house, who have blood ties , have their regular tiffs.

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But somehow, with the complicity of the mass media,
we have managed to sell this idea to young couples that if they are quarrelling then there is something wrong.

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And with the complicity of idealistic marriage classes, we have succeeded in making young couples believe that there are some immortal people somewhere who have perfect marriages.

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They always know one highly visible, reference couple or the other in their vicinity who have been married for decades and have had a seemingly, picture perfect union.

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Let me just say this as plain as I can.
I hate to burst your bubble but there is no perfect anything, anywhere.
Everyone you see who is married is just winging it as they go along and hoping to God that they are doing the right thing.

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I repeat.
All that picture perfect, media inspired crap is down to Photoshop and PR.
There is no perfect union.
If you stop 1000 married people on the main road and ask them, 'how is your marriage working out?
You will hear 5000 stories.
An average of 5 stories per partner.

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If you know what ALL married people have been through in their marriages and what they are still going through, you will thank God that he gave us the grace not to look like what we have been through.

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Peace.
Like I said at the beginning,
you'll be just fine.
Forget about what your neighbour is or isn't doing in their own marriage.
Just face your front and work out your own salvation with fear and trembling.
You'll be just fine.

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