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Amber Heard stan’s favorite thing to accuse Johnny of is Coercive Control, but it’s really Amber who’s guilty of doing that. Shall we take a look at how she coercively controlled him? Thread 🧵👇🏼:
1. Isolating Johnny from Friends and Family

Amber had her sister and 4 of her friends move into the same building her and Johnny were living in. They all lived next door to each other. He never kept her away from her support system but she tried to do exactly that to him!
Jonathan Shaw, Bill Carter (Jack’s godfather), Keith Richards (Johnny’s idol), people who were extremely close with Johnny have alluded or mentioned they hadn’t spoken with/seen him between 2013-2016. He was only seen with them again after he & Amber divorced. Coincidence?
Gina Deuters summed it up quite accurately when she stated: “instantly Amber started moving her friends into his properties. It was quite shocking how she eventually isolated him from his family and friends … it definitely felt like we’d kind of lost him.”
Abusers isolate victims to gain power. Amber wouldn’t do it directly, she would create drama when Johnny would try to see his kids/friends, which is something that results in lack of trying from the victim to avoid more arguments

Amber preventing Johnny from seeing his daughter:
Amber didn’t just try to cause rifts between him and his family/friends, but also with his work/co-workers. One can only assume she ultimately wanted him to have nothing and no one. Only her. This is consistent with a narcissistic personality and someone using coercive control!
Another example! Johnny & Amber were together that day, he went over to his friend’s apartment next door and stayed there for about an hour. When he came back, she got mad at him for not texting her and leaving her “stranded”, punched him in the face then tried to blame it on him
2. Criticism and Verbal Abuse

Amber constantly criticized Johnny for walking away from heated arguments. She would emasculate him by saying that he’s not a real man and even saying he can’t teach his son Jack anything about being one!
Being able to address an issue in a relationship is important but constantly picking on your spouse isn’t. This has come up in their discussions multiple times where Johnny expressed how much her criticizing him affects him, but she thinks it’s okay & even criticizes him further!
In all of the recordings we have, I’ve never heard Amber talk about how Johnny made her feel like she wasn’t being a good wife, or how she felt like she wasn’t doing enough…etc. but Johnny constantly felt that way and that’s a result of her breaking him down.
More verbal abuse by Amber witnessed by Johnny’s sister Christi!

It’s sickening to know that she wasn’t only verbally abusing him in fights but was also calling him names to break him down in moments where she was supposed to supportive and encouraging.
Amber using Johnny’s childhood trauma against him. She knew his reaction to her constant criticism was a trauma response and yet she continued to criticize him for it.
When it comes to “making things right” for the sake of the relationship, Amber wanted Johnny to just take responsibility for everything but the minute he tried to hold her accountable for something she did, she would flip and wouldn’t allow him to speak.
3. Gaslighting

When confronted about her lies, she denies it. Tries to convince Johnny it’s something he created. Then when he accuses her of punching him, she denies it and says it was a slap. It’s all very contradictory & only really proves that she did in fact lie to Travis!
More gaslighting!

She winds him up so bad and when he’s at his limit, she switched to being loving and affectionate even though she was the instigator

When he complains about her rules, she acts clueless and tells him he’s making it all up
- “The self delusion is so fucking deep”
- “You were coked out of your fucking mind”
- “You were fucking crazy”
- “You were delusional”
- “You were psychotic”

All that in just a short 22-sec clip. Imagine living with that everyday for 4 years

Full video
3. Abusers Force You to Live by Their Rules

Johnny is heard on tape expressing his frustration over rules Amber had set for him. Some of these rules weren’t necessarily bad but it shows you her controlling nature. She treated him like a child

1: he HAD to go to bed when she did
2: Amber insistence on taking Johnny’s boots off was an attempt to have control over him. He was not allowed to do it by himself
3: She was, at the very least, monitoring his meds consumption and she did it under the guise of having his best interests at heart but we know that’s not the case because she didn’t seem concerned when she gave him wine with Xanax. It’s sad to see how he thought she cared 💔
4. Abusers Often Use Pressure Tactics.

A. Denying you access to help/Withholding drugs or other substances:

Johnny testified that this was the lowest he’s ever felt as a human being, when he had to beg Amber to give him his meds to help him with withdrawals. She refused!
B. Destroying personal properties (phones, laptops, car…etc)

Amber claimed she threw Johnny’s phone out the balcony because he threw hers which isn’t true because Starling Jenkins (JD’s driver) testified to only finding Johnny’s phone, not Amber’s.
C. Threatening to call the police

Context: Amber and Johnny had fought that day. Johnny escaped to one of his other houses. Amber followed him, and when he asked her to leave, she refused and threatened to call the cops on him!
5. Threatening to Hurt the Victim

“It gives J and I time to talk, otherwise known as me threatening his life if he misbehaves while I’m gone”

Whether she said this as a joke or not, I’m inclined to take it as face value because it’s consistent with her abusive behavior
6. Abusers are Often Posessive/Jealous/Stalker-ish

This is a text message Amber had sent to her assistant Kate James. She had seen a text message pop up on JD’s phone from a female and she panicked. She sent the number to the assistant and asked her to trace it.
Amber displaying jealousy and her constant need for attention from Johnny
7. Violation of Trust

Infidelity causes feelings of betrayal and humiliation in the victim. Josh Drew, Amber’s friend, testified that she’d bring people over late at night when Johnny was away. He also stated that Rocky told him about Amber’s 3-way affair with Cara and Elon!
8. Lastly, Physical Violence

Dr. Laurel Anderson, their marriage counselor, testified that Amber would strike Johnny to keep him from leaving
I compiled some instances where Johnny calls Amber out on her violent behavior and Amber admitting to hitting him, but I urge everyone to go listen to all the tapes. They really paint a pretty clear picture.

#AmberHeardIsAnAbuser #JohnnyDeppIsASurvivor
Johnny realizing that Amber has a control issue. If you listen to the whole recording, it’s very clear that this is an issue that Amber’s had for a long time and many people were affected by it.

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