Thread by @divyamittal_IAS

My mother raised 3 kids- all 3 went to IIT, then IIM & doing well in their lives.
Based on my own childhood and journey of raising 2 little daughters, some insights on parenting.

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Tell them they can do anything.
Tell it so often that they start believing it. That belief will define their destiny
2/n

Let them fall.
Let them jump and play and fall and get hurt. Don't jump in to pick them up. Only then will they learn to get up from a failure, dust themselves up and keep walking
3/n

Compete
Make them participate in competitions. They will not win every time. But they will become comfortable with failure. Fear of failure is a bigger hindrance in success than failure.
4/n

Let them take risk.
Monitor them but allow them to do things you feel can be somewhat risky. Adventure sports, climbing a tree. You will see that when they know they can get hurt in the process, they behave responsibly
5/n

Abundance mindset.
They have opportunities & resources that you never had. Let them use that as a jump board to go in the higher orbit. Don't impose your scarcity mindset on them
6/n

Be a role model
Be yourself what you tell them to be. Nothing breaks a child's heart more than seeing hypocrisy of their parents
7/n

Shun bad behaviour.
You must scold them & correct them when they are doing something bad. They need to understand what right behaviour is
8/n

Trust them.
Don't be disappointed in them. Always have hope. If you become disappointed in them, they will have no hope for themselves.
9/n

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Give experiences.
Give them a variety of experiences to open their minds and hearts. Take them to orphanages, dance shows, travel, museums. Wherever you go, talk to them about things and their experience. Don't just be busy amongst yourselves
10/n

Listen.
Don't assume that they are stupid and don't know things. Don't be in a hurry to respond. Listen intently and then speak. Then you will reach them. You will never have a complaint that they don't listen.
11/n

Don't compare
Don't compare your child with anyone. Especially with their siblings. Being the favoured one will make them unprepared for harshness of the world, being the unfavoured one will make them needy and always seeking validation
12/n

Most important:
Be their safe place. Where they get love without having to be anything. Tell them that you will always love them, even if you are angry with them. Your love is not conditional on any behaviour of theirs.

13/n

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