It is imperative to understand how civility, decorum, manners, and the like are used to uphold authority—patriarchy, whiteness, other forms of privilege—and that we are urged to acquiesce as a form of maintaining that authority
We are no obliged to show respect to those in power.
Whether we are urged to be civil to racists or polite to patriarchy, the goal is the same: to maintain the power of the racist, to maintain the power of patriarchy.
“I realized that regardless of the tragedy, regardless of the grief, regardless of the monstrous challenge, Some of Us Have Not Died. Some of us did NOT die…And what shall we do, we who did not die?” June Jordan #GriefLiteracy
Until my essay Menopause is Shit, Menopause is amazing, here's something I wrote about Everything Everywhere All At Once, which is exactly what menopause feels like feministgiant.com/p/essay-the-me…
Whenever I want anyone to know how utterly wrenching–and also liberating– it is to go through perimenopause, I will say, nay YELL: EVERYTHING EVERYWHERE ALL AT ONCE. feministgiant.com/p/essay-the-me…
Everything Everywhere All at Once is the perfect menopause allegory film. I don’t care if that’s not what The Daniels had in mind when they wrote and directed it. It’s art. It’s out there. And my menopause claims it!
I am writing an essay about how menopause has undone me. I worry when I say stuff like that. I come from a generation of cis women who were socialized to leave everything that made us cis women at home, so that we could “make it” in the cis man’s world.
But menopause has kicked my fucking ass.
It has been a great churner, menopause has; discombobulating all of me. It has taken whatever Mona I used to be pre-perimenopause and shaken her free at the seams.
I don’t remember what I used to be and I don’t know who I am becoming.
But I welcome her!
And when I finish the essay, it will be here.
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Because white and Christian are considered the default in the U.S., it has been too easy for too many white Americans to see theocracy "over there"--in Iran or Afghanistan--and not "over here" where people who looked like them built a theocracy feministgiant.com/p/essay-the-ha…