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I need to talk about the fact that Ben goes full hedgehog (I presume because of the Lewis news, if that article's correct), very clearly on the edge, but then brings himself back to a point of actively deciding to open up to Callum about it 😭 #Ballum
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Especially as it sounds like he tries initially and is interrupted, but rather than giving up and letting himself internalize it, and spiral, the spoilers suggest he then tries again and is able to actually talk to Callum about it. That's huge for him.
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We've watched Ben on a journey from not wanting Callum to kow anything, to being okay-ish with him knowing and (a bit reluctantly) accepting his support, to Ben actively talking to Callum about it, persevering even when barriers are put in front of him.
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Although I wish we'd seen more of his journey through these steps, maybe seen him reach out to a support group for help to get him there, it still makes me emotional how far he's come in the past few months, and how close he is to rebuilding his life.

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The problem with saying 'just log off' as a solution if someone is being cyberbullied or harassed online, is that for some of the most vulnerable people, the internet is also their only source of community and friendship.
The internet is massively complicated in that way - it can be a source of great pain, but also a source of great comfort, and both of those things can be true, at the same time, in the space of a single second. Logging off may stop the harassment, but it may also isolate you.
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