People who make fun of ‘modern’ Indian girls seeking grooms who live apart from parents/don’t have siblings should take some time out this festival season to ask their mothers what it was like when they newly married esp if they were living with in-laws (1/6)
You’d be surprised how many Ekta Kapoor style horror stories will tumble out of closet. There’s a reason why daily soaps resonate so much with homemakers even today. Urban Gen Z kids might laugh but we really need to remove rose tinted glasses when it comes to our moms’ lives 2/6
Taunts on lack of dowry and perceived flaws in physical appearance (esp skin color and weight), expectation of servitude, abusive treatment from the jethani/nanad, sexual advances from male members-it’s all very real. Hence most brides choose to stay apart these days (3/6)
Real drama tho is if you happen to get widowed. Suddenly becomes in laws priority to banish widow back to her maternal home and ensure she doesn’t inherit property from her husband. More the siblings more the kalesh over ‘hissa’ even if they never got along with husband(4/6)
Also this might sound awkward but it’s really no use pontificating about sexual abuse and consent without first asking our mothers what it was like living with our fathers. Can we hold our parents to the same standards we hold the rest of the world on social media? (5/6)
Before anyone says women are also evil and file false cases etc. maybe true but statistically marriage continues to be more of a loss making enterprise for women. Maybe that’s why men are finding it so ‘hard’ on the marriage market these days-we learn from the past. 6/6
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