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☑️ What is domestic abuse
☑️ Genesis of domestic violence

Domestic violence is all about #power and #control.

Being #inflicted with violence by an intimate partner or spouse can be a very confusing and traumatizing experience for survivors of domestic abuse.

There comes a #question why the sufferer doesn't "#just_leave,” the abuser. but abusive or violent relationships are often marked by complex dynamics that make it difficult to get away.

Abusers use domestic violence to gain power and control over their targets. but certain underlying factors might sometimes contribute to a person’s propensity for abuse, including

▪️experiencing childhood trauma
▪️holding certain belief systems about hierarchy and domination

➡️ Types of domestic abuse
Domestic abuse, also known as intimate partner abuse, describes any situation where a romantic or intimate partner or spouse uses dominating or violent behavior to exert control over a partner, physically, sexually, or psychologically.

The #goal of abusers who engage in domestic violence is almost always to control. #Abusive_Partners and #spouses may be looking for a way to manipulate and maintain a sense of #dominance.

Domestic abuse can take many forms, including these common types:

▪️#Sexual.
▪️#Physical.
▪️#Isolation. Preventing you from seeing family, friends, or attending social events.
▪️#Verbal. Using words to threaten, blame, or demean you; screaming and flying into rages.

▪️#Control. Eliminating freedom by controlling you from making your own choices, checking up on you obsessively, dictating your clothing or style choices, or using your children as leverage.
▪️#Emotional. Targeting your insecurities or vulnerabilities; brainwashing.

▪️#Male_privilege. Adhering to cultural beliefs that men must be dominant over women.
▪️#Economic. Your partner has complete control over your spending and income, or squanders money on nonessentials.
Experiences of domestic abuse can often include many tactics at once.

☑️ Signs of domestic abuse
Because domestic abuse can be subtle and complex, you may not be sure whether what you’re experiencing qualifies as abuse.

Domestic abuse can be much more than physical violence. Even if they don’t cause you physical harm, controlling or

controlling or dominating behaviors can still be considered domestic abuse.

☑️ Signs of financial abuse:

▪️All the finances are under your partner’s name.
▪️Your name is used for legal documents without your permission.

▪️You’re not allowed to work or have income.

☑️ Signs of sexual abuse:

▪️You’re forced into sexual acts or sex work.
▪️You’re harmed during intimacy or sexually assaulted
▪️Birth control is either withheld or forced on you without your consent.

☑️ Signs of physical abuse:

▪️You experience physical assault.
▪️Unwanted rough play occurs.
▪️Partner aggression is directed at things you care about, like belongings, children, or pets.
▪️You’re punished with deliberate reckless driving.

▪️You’re forced or pressured into taking substances nonconsensually.
Your partner withholds food, water, or prevents sleep.
▪️Your partner holds you down or keeps you imprisoned.

☑️ Signs of emotional abuse:

▪️Your partner devalues or dismisses your beliefs.
▪️Your partner withholds praise or appreciation.
▪️Your partner is excessively jealous.
▪️You’re accused of constant infidelity.
▪️Your partner harms themselves or threatens to harm themselves to get

you to cooperate.
▪️Your partner makes you feel as though you deserved to be punished.

☑️ Signs of verbal abuse:

▪️Your partner insults and demeans you.
▪️Your partner belittles you in front of others.
▪️You’re called names.
▪️Your partner yells, screams, or rages at you.

☑️ Signs of control and isolation:

▪️Your phone calls, text messages, or emails are constantly monitored.
▪️Your partner demands you prove where you’re at whenever you’re apart.
▪️You’re not allowed to see family and friends.
▪️Your partner stops you from attending social events

☑️ Patriarchal domination:

▪️Your partner refuses to do certain “women-only” chores.
▪️You’re expected to behave in a submissive way.
▪️You’re not allowed to contribute to decisions.

➡️ Genesis of domestic violence?
▪️Domestic violence can be varied and individual, and there is no one cause of domestic violence.

▪️It’s important to remember that domestic violence is a choice, not an uncontrolled impulse. A survivor’s actions cannot cause abusive behavior.

▪️If you are experiencing domestic violence, you are never to blame. You can’t “make” someone abuse you, no matter what an abuser may say.

▪️Even if you could do everything possible to please an abusive partner, their need to control you will likely still show itself somehow.

▪️Children who witness domestic abuse may grow up thinking physical or psychological violence are acceptable ways to solve conflict. In the same way, raising children to believe a different gender is inferior may result in exhibiting controlling behavior later in life.

☑️ The need for control that could lead to domestic violence may be linked to several individual factors, including:

▪️less access to education
▪️personality disorders
▪️cultural attitudes
▪️gender ideologies
▪️low self-esteem
▪️struggling with anger management
▪️insecurity

➡️ warning ⚠️ 🔔
🔔Domestic violence is set apart by one partner’s behavior pattern used to gain or maintain control and power over another partner. Abusers tend to use these behavioral tactics to keep their partner in the relationship.

🔔Usually, abusive behavior starts subtly and gradually and can become continuous over time. With domestic violence, these nuanced behaviors lead to physical, sexual, or psychological violence.

🔔Even when domestic abuse escalates, the more subtle behaviors — like financial or emotional abuse — may continue being used as a method of reinforcing violence by subduing the abused partner further, making them easier to control.

🔔If you notice your partner’s behaviors are increasingly focused on controlling or manipulating you, this could indicate that you may be in an escalating domestic violence situation.

Credits #psychcentral

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