Why I dislike like the term “church hurt”:
Making pain more palatable does nothing to heal it.
And I believe you are worthy of more healing than half-truths can give. Hear me out:
Making pain more palatable does nothing to heal it.
And I believe you are worthy of more healing than half-truths can give. Hear me out:
When you use the term “church hurt,” I know you aren’t trying to be dishonest. You are trying to be acknowledged without losing your acceptance.
We give our pain from other Christians a nicer-sounding name because we fear that being fully honest—including with ourselves—will cut us off from belonging.
Before the truth sets you free, it makes you cringe.
The truth is, I didn’t just skin the knee of my spirituality.
I didn’t just “have a misunderstanding” and hold a grudge like a shield over my heart. I wasn’t unteachable. I just was no longer willing to give the precious gift of my faithfulness to anyone other than Jesus Christ.
I didn’t just “have a misunderstanding” and hold a grudge like a shield over my heart. I wasn’t unteachable. I just was no longer willing to give the precious gift of my faithfulness to anyone other than Jesus Christ.
We don't just "get hurt."
Often, we're harmed.
And if we can't name the injury,
how will we apply the remedy?
Often, we're harmed.
And if we can't name the injury,
how will we apply the remedy?
Spiritual abuse and religious trauma are terms that give us courage to rightly name just how deep our wounds go and, thus, how far the healing needs to reach.
Niceness can be noxious.
“Church hurt” is a term that often serves to re-enact and reinforce the same relational dynamics that cause spiritual abuse and religious trauma in the first place.
“Church hurt” is a term that often serves to re-enact and reinforce the same relational dynamics that cause spiritual abuse and religious trauma in the first place.
If we cannot be honest about being harmed, we will never be able to fully heal.
If we cannot be fully honest, we will never be able to hold our leaders and communities accountable to let Love be louder than pride.
If we cannot be fully honest, we will never be able to hold our leaders and communities accountable to let Love be louder than pride.
If we cannot be fully honest, we will never be able to hold our own personhood as more precious than the shallow semblance of belonging we get in churches and spiritual relationships where we are not fully accepted and respected.
If we can't name the injury,
how will we apply the remedy?
I'll never stop loving the church. So I also won't stop being honest about the harm that happens in her midst.
how will we apply the remedy?
I'll never stop loving the church. So I also won't stop being honest about the harm that happens in her midst.
All of that was adapted from #TheLordIsMyCourage (ch 17), which is on a major sale on Kindle today only (12/3) for just $2.99. 👌🏼 amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B09N8N… 
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