Pleasure tips: Oral sex (Cunnilingus) How to eat pussy a 🧵
Let’s start with anatomy. Take a moment to review this. Really let this marinate in your mind of all the genitalia’s you’ve seen (or not) and match them to the medical terminology.
Now that you’ve familiarized yourself with the genitalia.
The clitoral hood is where you caress (especially for those w/ a small clitoris)
The clitoris is where you tap (not scratch like a record)
The vagina is where you stroke and lick.
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The anus is for teasing
The labia majora is where you kiss or caress.
The labia minora is where you lick.
Let’s drop the technical and get to the good stuff, foreplay ✨
There’s so many ways to warm up the body of vulva owners, but the simplest is starting at the neck. Start by kissing or nibbling there.
Warming up is key to cunnilingus because it gets the juices flowing.
foreplay continued ✨
Gradually choose different erogenous zones (pleasure areas) to lick, touch, or play with before arriving to the erogenous zones of the genitalia (commonly referred to as the pussy).
*save these images for a reminder*
Let’s move to the lips of the vagina. Kiss around the outer lips in a circular pattern. Work your tongue into the inner lips & do a few rotations of your tongue in circular motions
*Pay attention to their love sounds.*
As you hear them moan, pull back and spread their lips with your fingers to dive in and devour. Flatten your tongue and do full & slow licks. Spread the lips, then the vagina and give it a sensual kiss. (You want to make-out with it)
Pay attention to their love sounds.
Body language tends to shift during sensual kisses. Moans get louder, hands move more, legs move more, eyes roll back, toes curl.
Move your tounge as the body does, chances are the body is directing you.
Move your tounge up to focus on the clitoris. Be mindful that the clitoris is the most sensitive area on their body. So, pleasure varies on the clitoral size. #TwitterAfterDark
Large clitoris: Can experience more sensation that leads to orgasm. *varies per person*
Small clitoris: takes more time/effort/focus to achieve clitoral orgasm due to increased sensitivity. It’s best to play with the hood rather than the actual clitoris. *varies per person.
Do short circular motions with your tongue or try spelling the alphabet with your tongue (cliche but it f**ing works)
Play with it, mix up the tongue motions with sucking on their clit or caressing the hood with your tounge.
Pay attention to the body**
All vulva owners have a tell when they’re ready to have a combination orgasm.
What ever that is, insert your finger and curve it downward to do finger strokes while you caress the clitoris or hood.
Combine fingering & licking until they explode.
Advanced options, curve the finger upward as you enter almost like you finger drawing a C, to enhance pleasure. Be gentle with this though, no ramming like you’re digging a whole to China.
You’re communication standards are selfish. We get it. You ghost so you don’t feel uncomfortable with simply saying, “i’m not interested.” But, what you don’t know is that silence is far worse.
Silence is open to interpretation. Based on someone’s upbringing, it can mean I’ve done something wrong or simply put, you’re busy. The issue with this is no one truly knows until you open your mouth and say what ever it is.
You can not help it right because choosing to you is due to your lack of emotional intelligence, insecurities about hurting someone, and selfishness.
Newsflash! Ghosting hurts and you’re doing exactly what you think you’re preventing.
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After a few month of soul searching and discovering alignment, I’ve found it within myself to share my wealth of sexuality and relationship expertise with the innawebs.
Hi, I am Shirley Dor! A sexual wellness educator, writer, and coach. Formerly, a psychotherapist, I took my 5 years in practice to curate a brave space for sexual expression, intimacy, and relationships.
I make it a point to bridge the pleasure gap between folks with penises and folks with vulvas by sharing pleasure and intimacy tips.
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