Navigating the Tug-of-War Between Love and Obsessive Drive
I've been:
- self-employed w/ big dreams for 15yrs
- married for 7.5
- father for 4
- learning from plenty of mistakes!
If you've said, "Sorry, honey. This week is crazy" in the last 2 months, this thread is for you 🧵
1/ I'm going to assume you've already completed a very important step: Finding an amazing partner who loves, understands and admires your drive and ambition!
Also, want to note that you're not me. These are learnings from my experience. Take what applies to you & leave the rest.
2/ Time and Attention:
These two valuable resources are in high demand for anyone juggling a relationship & a business. (Whether an entrepreneur, trader, poker player, etc. - you're running a business)
The first step is recognizing that you have a limited supply of them.
2021 ended like all years do these days - with my son’s birthday.
He’s 3 now. A real big boy.
I’ve been reflecting on the last three years with him. Stick around if you’re VERY bored. There will be pictures…
Of course, I thought about how wonderful and cute and funny he is, and how full my heart is with him in my life… the usual parent stuff that I think about every day when I look at him…
But then I remembered a message from a good friend, who asked me to pass his happy bday wishes on to my wife too, because in his family’s culture, moms are celebrated on a child’s birthday.
It turns out that lots of cultures celebrate the mother on birthdays.
Over my poker career, I’ve been surprised many times to learn of high-stakes players (those you’d assume think as logically as anyone) who are superstitious. I've been thinking about superstition today, for a reason I’ll share after writing out some of my thoughts.
A thread ⬇️
1/ Now is probably a good time to warn you that there is no moral or wisdom to be gained from these tweets - just some random thoughts and a barely interesting story.
Here is your opportunity to hop off!
2/ I knew a very logical high-stakes online player who believed in what we call “being due” - if you’ve been running bad, you’re bound to win soon. If it’s been going well, the downswing is coming.
Two years ago, I started working @ElliotRoe1, both in 1-1 sessions and through his course.
One of the first things I learned about myself is that I was terrified to try (and fail) in the post-solver era of poker. That realization sparked some big changes in my life.
A Thread 👇
1/ I had been working a ton of hours between my 2 businesses (@RunItOnce & @RunItOncePoker), and I had recently become a father.
I'd also spent most of my time in the US, with limited online poker options, and most of my poker playing time on the (less competitive) live felt.
2/ I was well-respected as a player and coach, and I was working on a project I was passionate about. I thought I was making a conscious decision to move on to "bigger & more important things" and was expecting to semi-retire (AKA to stop playing tough online nosebleed games).