During the Christmas gatherings I was confronted by a liberal family member about me 'becoming Republican' after having been one of the biggest lefties she's known. Soapbox time:
I was a lefty. I thought I was a member of a group that distrusted big government. That /1
distrusted big business. That distrusted big pharma. That distrusted the security state. That recognized that war is a tool of the elite. That believed in bodily autonomy. That believed in protecting children and cherishing the innocence of adolescence. That believed that trad /2
gender roles were confining, antiquated and oppressive. That stood up for the working class. That believed in rights inherent to *all people.* That empowered, not enabled, the less fortunate, the marginalized, the damaged.
Starting around 2015 I saw more opportunities /3
to find common ground with people outside the group than ever in my lifetime. Instead of embracing these opportunities, the group took to altering their positions to become less welcoming. Trump, and then Covid, turbocharged this, and it became undeniable to me that the group /4
I had thought I was in alignment with had no real ideology other than opposition. I had remained right where I'd always been on most of my ideology while the group had completely changed around me because the 'wrong people' had begun to come around to some of the ideals it had /5
long claimed to hold.
I'm not a lefty anymore. Not because I changed, but because leftism in the US was revealed as a sham. And yes, since then some of my ideals have shifted. Escaping the group meant rethinking some of the ideas that had been implanted in me after becoming a /6
card-carrying member; ideas that were dogma that I'd absorbed simply because 'this is what good lefties think,' ideas that I couldn't logically defend. And I've since realized that leftism in the USA is utterly reliant on a system that is rotten to its core & almost certainly /7
unsalvageable. Despite most lefties acknowledging this when pressed, they still remain steadfast in their belief that the only solution is to 'fix' it so ever-more reliance can be placed upon it. And 'fixing' it, despite being often couched in radical sounded rhetoric, is /8
never revolutionary - especially since Trump - and always winds up amounting to tinkering around the edges and forming cults of personality around charlatan political figures.
So yeah. I'm not a Republican. And I'm not a liberal or a lefty. And this is because I *know* where I /9
stand again, while people who are members of these groups have to check in daily to figure out what they're supposed to be believing in at any given moment.
Honestly, she didn't know what to do with any of that. I think she was ready to head back to the city & her bubble. /10fin
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As the father of a teenager, let me help: This isn't just about covid or lockdowns. This is about thrusting children into a neurotic adult world far, far too early. One of my kids' best friends went to a remote, outward bound style summer camp deep last summer. She came back /1
giddy, and told her mom how amazing it was that the entire time she was there no one talked about climate change or politics or activism or genders. For 2 weeks, they were all allowed to just be kids again.
Parents - liberals in particular - think they're churning out little /2
warriors now, but they aren't. They're churning out depressed, confused, terrified, angry, despondent, lost, broken young adults. As someone who has spent a lifetime fighting depression, seeing what we're doing to our kids fucking infuriates me, and the idea that it's /3
Well that blew up. I will admit, some of what informs me is personal. I work with 25 year olds who make 6 figures working full time remote, and when they're apoplectic over minor grievances I can't help but think "At your age I worked construction during the day, unloaded /1
trucks at night, lived in a roach infested efficiency and forged car insurance cards because I couldn't afford it. But yes, tell me more about how angry you are that you're asked to fill out your time sheet daily."
Do things suck now? Yup. But it has always sucked. If /2
anything, now it just sucks for *more* people than in recent history. But conversely, there are also more opportunities. Most - not all, but most - of the younger folks I meet who complain, they aren't busting their asses. They're doing half-assed work at a half-assed job, /3
I hear young people and the newly political talk about quitting the game and collective power and how 'people are waking up,' and I can only smile and nod. As a over-50 lapsed lefty, I've been hearing this stuff my whole life. My OG hippy mother in law has been saying /1
this stuff for nigh on 60 years now. In her mind, we're perpetually on the precipice of 'people waking up,' and if all we did was not participate in the process just a little harder, it'd be the tipping point that would set us all free. Meanwhile, look at where we are. While a /2
small subsection of society nobly drops out, thinking they're somehow leeching power from the system, increasingly worse people slide in and manipulate the system ever more efficiently. At this point it could be argued that the whole system is run by /3
Goddammit, I'm done with the 'kids are resilient' trope. When I was 3 my mother married a man who did not want children. Other than to clean, I was banished from public spaces of the house. I was expected to stay in my room unless an adult needed me for something. /1
I was punished for spending unapproved time in the family room or kitchen or anywhere other than my room or bathroom. It was only much later, when I had made friends at school and was able to go to their houses, that I realized how fucked this was. /2
I had normalized it... because I was a child, and for a child their parents - even bad ones - are their whole world. For small children, normal is whatever experience they're living. Had you asked me at 4 if I was upset that I wasn't allowed in the living room, I would have... /3