Here's the system I use to manage my time and energy between
• family (wife & 6 kids)
• work (CEO of a non-profit)
• personal time (hybrid athlete)
In the hope that this is useful to you too:
But before we dive into it, none of this would be possible without my wife. She is the hero of our family and the best mother a child could wish for.
Successful work-life balance means both of us having the time and energy to pursue our goals.
1) Info Capture & To-Dos
You’re being bombarded with information:
• To-Dos
• Meeting notes
• Study assignments
• Gift idea for your spouse
• Online articles you want to read later
Without solid info capture, you’ll get overwhelmed.
During my PhD studies, I used Evernote and Things and now I use Notion.
The most important parts of your info capture are:
• it is readily available
• quick to enter info
• searchable
Choose one that fits these criteria and don’t waste time finding the ‘perfect’ tool.
2) Time Blocking
Having a to-do list is a start. But you need to block out time in your calendar, to do them.
It seems restrictive at first, but the more you assign blocks of time to specific items, the more freedom you create.
Here’s mine:
3) Morning Routine
When your day is filled with work and family obligations, it is easy to simply go through the motions.
But living life on cruise control stops you from becoming a better version of yourself.
Fix this by building a solid morning routine.
This is my typical morning:
04:55 Alarm
05:05 Glass of water, read affirmations
05:10 Coffee, journalling
05.25 Check calendar & to-dos for today
05:45 Workout
06:30 Meal prep for the family & get ready for the day
08:00 School run
4) Why & Affirmations
Often we forget the bigger picture when life is just so busy and we get pulled in a million directions.
Start your day by recalling your “Why” to ensure you design your days in support of your life's purpose.
(Mine: to master myself in service of others)
I used to limit myself through negative self-talk. Now I start my days with affirmations to set the right tone.
Affirmations can:
• increase your confidence
• help you focus on your goals
• help build new positive beliefs
• guide you to who you want to become
5) Evening Routine
Tomorrow’s success depends on how you end today.
• Determine how many hours of sleep you need
• Set an alarm 60mins before bedtime
• Check your calendar for tomorrow
• Turn off devices → no blue lights
• Lay out your clothes
• Pack your bag
6) Weekly Review
But for your system to work, you need to schedule a weekly review.
Here’s a 3-step overview:
1/ GET CLEAR
Check everything under your control:
- loose papers, receipts & lists
- inboxes (digital and & physical)
- capture everything on your mind
- review journal entries, meeting notes, etc
Get all your inboxes to zero. Schedule tasks or delegate where appropriate.
2/ GET CURRENT
Review your To-Dos, Calendar and Projects.
- review your past week
- review your upcoming week
- go through your weekly checklists
- check on the progress of your projects
- mark off finished to-dos and re-assign unfinished ones
3/ GET CREATIVE
Review your Someday lists and items with no clear deadlines.
- any personal goals you want to plan for?
- dormant projects that need to be activated?
- new learning opportunities you want to pursue?
This stage allows you to review your life more broadly.
Bonus
I created a basic template of my system (incl. morning & evening routines, journal prompts and a weekly review template).
At 19, I emigrated to Scotland
At 21, I became a manager
At 23, we had a baby
At 24, I got married
At 29, I earned a PhD
At 31, I was promoted to CEO
At 34, we became parents of 6
Here’re some life lessons I’ve collected along the way:
1. Fathers can never fully appreciate the physical, mental and emotional sacrifice of a mother. They give so much more than us. Our job is to support them the best we can.
2. A calm mind is your most powerful tool.
3. Titles are meaningless. Life’s not about what you are on the outside, but who you are on the inside.
4. The most important story is the one you tell yourself. Make it a positive and aspirational one.
If you want to lose your dadbod in 2023, read this:
1) Intermittent Fasting
Create an eating window of 8-10hrs. This allows your body to:
• reduce inflammation
• get a break from constant digesting
• start burning your fat stores for energy
The easiest way to start is by skipping breakfast.
2) Don't drink your calories
Chewing your food gives your body time to signal when you've had enough.
But drinking sugary drinks increases your insulin resistance and drinking alcohol (especially beer) will lead to an increase of fat storage around your waist.