As much as I hate the cult-y atmosphere of many mega-churches, I feel a bit sad when I see people labeling them as bad by definition.
A lot of those “add ons” in mega-churches make them more accessible to disabled people. 🧵 #Christianity
Note: this is based on my own experiences attending events in dozens of churches throughout my life. This is meant to spark discussion on the subject. I do not intend to present this as hard rules, but rather observable trends.
In my experience, the bigger the church, the better the ramps.
Yes, most churches have ramps nowadays, but there’s a big difference between wide gentle ramps at every entrance, and one narrow rattling wood thing attached to the side door.
In my experience, the bigger the church, the more likely it is to have elevators.
In my experience, the bigger the church, the more likely it is to have multiple services with different worship styles.
If you have specific worship needs (ie, flashing lights give you seizures) then that could be the difference between church welcoming you, and endangering you.
In my experience, the bigger the church, the more likely it is to have accessible bathrooms.
I’ve seen my fair share of bathrooms in my day that think just having a stall that’s larger than the others makes it accessible. But if the door is super heavy, wheelchair users 1/2
might not be able to open it. The stalls might be accessible, while the door into the bathroom itself is too narrow (I saw this in action at ORU. Students should NEVER have to race to another building in the rain just to use the bathroom between classes). Sinks might be too high.
In my experience, the bigger the church, the more likely it is to have an overflow room that offers a calmer church experience. As an Autistic, I love these.
In my experience, the bigger the church, the more likely it is to livestream their services. If you’re someone who often can’t get out of bed, for example, this makes a huge difference. You can still be part of the group when you’re not able to travel.
In my experience, the bigger the church, the more likely it is to have a “kids church” during the service. Having to sit still in service as an Autistic kid was genuinely harmful to me as a child, because I need to move at least a little to be able to process what’s being 1/2
taught. Eventually, I got the idea that I was somehow less Godly than my friends because I wiggled. On top of that, I struggled to process the messages because all my energy was spent on forcing myself to stay still. A “kids church” would have been a game changer for me.
In my experience, the bigger the church, the more likely it is to have a sign language interpreter for the service (or at the very least, for the music)
In my experience, the bigger the church, the more likely it is to have extra rooms to… well, have a breakdown.
Seriously, as an Autistic, knowing there’s rooms that aren’t crowded makes a huge difference, because I know I can find a space to manage a meltdown if necessary.
In my experience, the bigger the church, the more likely it is to have emergency medical supplies like an AED and a folding wheelchair at the welcome center.
In my experience, the bigger the church, the more likely it is to have wide aisles. If you use a wheelchair, this means you can sit next to your friends without worrying about blocking the aisle.
The point of this thread is not to say that one kind of church is good while the others are bad.
I just want to remind Christians that those “amenities” and “add ons” and “fluff” that megachurches have aren’t just bookstores and big worship bands.
If you don’t have wide enough bathroom doors, you’re telling certain disabled people that they need to crawl on the ground for the privilege to relieve themselves in your church.
If you only have one way to worship, you’re telling people who mentally cannot handle that environment that they don’t get to worship God with you.
If you have your Bible studies upstairs but no elevators, you’re telling people who can’t climb stairs that they don’t get to study the Bible with you.
You don’t need to change everything about your church to make it accessible to disabled people though!
If renovating the main bathrooms isn’t an option, maybe you can add a family restroom that’s bigger.
An overflow worship room doesn’t need to be fancy. It can be the second grade classroom with a projector hooked up to a WiFi stream.
If your pastor writes out sermons ahead of time, you could have printed versions available for deaf church-goers.
You can remove a couple chairs on a couple aisles and put wheelchair-symbol stickers on the floor there, so there’s plenty of space for any wheelchair users who attend.
The point is: disabled Christian are often excluded by small and medium churches. If you’re going to condemn mega-churches for their many faults, please make sure their disabled patrons would be welcome at your church.
I’d love to hear people share ways their church is accessible in the comments!
And I’d love for disabled people who want to attend church but can’t to share what would be the game changer for them that would make them welcome in a church.
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I think I’ve discovered part of the reason I struggle to accomplish tasks as an Autistic, and it’s fascinating 🧵
I call it “Stress Tax Theory.”
First off, a disclaimer: this is based on my brain and my brain only. I’m not saying this is applies to other Autistics, although I do wonder if it would.
The more I take care of my sensory needs, the more I enjoy previously unpleasant feelings. Let me explain 🧵
I’ve spent a lot of the last two years since I got diagnosed as Autistic doing an overhaul of my life. I changed my wardrobe to be sensorily-pleasing, got noise-cancelling headphones, slowly learned to read my body’s signals better, etc
I still have a long long way to go, but I’ve made good progress, and meet my sensory needs much better than I did before
One of the best things for me since learning that I’m Autistic is putting names to my feelings. Here are 3 very Autism-y feelings I identify in myself 🧵
I don’t know if other people will experience all these feelings or feel them in the same way, but I’m making this thread in the hopes that it helps people sort through their own feelings.
🔥 Burnout — the complete mental devastation that comes from pushing myself (or being pushed) too hard
To me this feels like mental and physical exhaustion, a vague hopelessness over everything, and a sort of “spluttering out” when I try to do a task, like when a car won’t start
*Disclaimer: these are largely based on my own experience. When in doubt, always consult peer-reviewed research and/or a mental health professional.
1️⃣ Some friendships involve regularly-scheduled meetups and frequent calls and texts. But sometimes friendships are more like the friendships in adventure books — you go on quests together between periods of isolation.
Churches really tell young men that certain emotions are “feminine” and therefore should be avoided,
AND claim that men are constantly fighting massive rage and lust,
AND THEN expect those young men to grow up to be pastors and hold the hearts of an entire church.
Misogyny and purity culture largely affect women, but they certainly aren’t doing men any favors either.
(I recognize that gender isn’t binary, but according to the evangelical framework that we are discussing it is, so that’s what I’m referring to.)
I’m not saying that pastors are excused for being abusers. But incompetent?
I mean, sometimes it really feels like the goal of Evangelical manhood is to teach both genders to be incompetent in certain areas… and then people get shocked when things go wrong???
One of the hardest parts of still taking Covid precautions is feeling like I’m letting relatives down if I don’t attend.
I can count the most risky events I’ve been to on one hand, and all of them were for loved ones, trying desperately not to fall into the cracks and disappear from the family altogether.
Anyway, this tweet inspired by me thinking about how I tweeted briefly a couple months ago about a small choir concert I went to so I could support a family member, and realizing it probably sounded like I went to a super-spreader event like a Harry Styles concert or something.