I was speaking to one of my teenage daughters the other day who was telling me about a conflict she was having with her step mom. It comes to naturally to resist, to defend, decry and protest.
It’s times like that I have to set aside my “mama bear” instincts and put my kids well being first. I suggested my daughter respond to the conflict with kindness and generosity (I would help her with the latter).
I think it is a little funny we were having that conversation so close to #PalmSunday . People thought Jesus was going to strong arm His kingdom come - but that isn’t how God works. Those who live by the sword, die by the sword.
I’m not very good at it, but I’m learning self control, to do the right thing even when it makes me feel powerless - to love our neighbors, even when the neighbor isn’t acting lovely. #kidscomefirst#momlife
In other news, my literal neighbor brought over some gluten free chocolate cookies last night that are so good I can’t even tell they are gluten free! 🥰
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🧵TW: abuse. #metoo#Awareness This was the last photo ever taken of my family before my divorce. We had already split up, but you wouldn’t know it to look at us. It was Easter. We went to Church, laughed, smiled & celebrated. I never took off that cardigan & nobody asked why.
About a year later my youngest came home from his dads with bruises around his neck. The marks were identical to the ones I used to hide on my arms and thighs and abdomen. I took him to the hospital to document it and they called CPS.
CPS came to my house to interview all the children separately. Afterwards, the woman sat down with me alone in my apartment living room. She praised me for being strong enough to get away from such an abusive man, she said she knew a lot of women never could find that strength.
🧵Especially in recent months, I’ve seen an uptick of men claiming that their ex wives were wrong for filing for divorce against them, “she was the one who filed” is a common complaint as if who files first indicates who was most guilty.
Studies show that women are more likely to file for divorce but their reasons often point to the other party having broke the actual marriage vows. She may file when the situation gets bad enough that she cannot or will not submit to mistreatment.
We know that it takes two people to make a marriage work, but in cases of abuse, it only takes one person to destroy it.