I figured, why not use today to unveil the YAP (Youth Attracted Person) pride flag I designed almost a year ago?
I wanted to stray from the oft used horizontal bars motif, but only a little. I wanted to retain some familiarity.
The colors are symbolic and have roots in YAP culture with the original spiral designs being light blue for BLs and light pink for GLs, and yellow for gender neutral YAPs, pan YAPs, et cetera. White is for the ace YAPs. The purple is for non-binary YAPs and young people.
The shape of the flag also has meaning. It's more apparent in the vertical oriented version but in the center between the bars is an hourglass formed from the white and purple triangles, representing the passage of time and growing up.
The blue and pink bars are set at that angle growing up and outwards, in the way that young people grow up and out into the world, as they become adults. The bars go from less to more saturated to represent that transition from youth, to adolescence, to adulthood.
The white space has utility, too! It's meant to be customized to the individual. A person can add a spiral triangle there for BLs, or a spiral heart for GLs, or maybe they're a zoo and want that represented too? Add the zeta!
Come as you are. All Queers are welcome.
Attraction is not abuse. And abuse is not love.
Love is love.
Defy hate. Dismantle systemic oppression. Stand in solidarity against bigotry, against fascism.
But never forget that love is love, and you deserve love. Especially from yourself.
That is what pride means to me.
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People ask themselves how our culture got to this point so devoid of compassion or understanding. People act surprised to see the rise of fascism happening, and think it's sudden.
When my posts blow up? It demonstrates how much hate lurks in the hearts of the average person.
As I've told many people in private, I paint a target on myself intentionally. And I don't do much more than sass them, or reinforce my positions.
So you can see how eager they are to hurt people.
So you can see how little harm prevention means to them.
I also do it to make a beacon of myself. Yes, it attracts a lot of hate. But all those bigots have paraphiles among their followers who feel isolated and afraid. When they see me, they reach out. They find that they're not as alone as they thought. It makes a difference.
If you managed to overcome your outrage enough to go further, and you're wondering what a "paraphilia" even is to begin with? Here's an excellent primer video on the subject from Dr. Lindsey Doe!
"Stigmatization and societal punitiveness surrounding people living with these interests can impact their well-being, obstruct help-seeking, and potentially increase risk of offending behavior."
I think most sexuality is flexible. Though it's different for everyone. I view sexuality in a 4th dimensional spectrum; one that includes time. In my paradigm, sexuality is music.
I refer to it as the Sexual Symphony:
Everyone has their own beat. Their own instruments, their own lyrics and language; their own textures, moods and tones. And over the course of our song, the music changes. Instruments are introduced or fade away. New lyrics, or rhythm changes.
Maybe we meet someone and their song meshes PERFECTLY with our own, and there's beautiful harmonies and mashups to be found. Sometimes it's a duet. Sometimes it's more. Sometimes we meet people and our music clashes with one another, creating discord.
The maxim that "kids can't consent" doesn't protect kids, it does the opposite. By merely telling young people "they can't", they're deprived of tools they'll need to protect themselves now; but also later on as adults.
Understanding consent can SAVE YOUR LIFE.
Young people need to know about safely giving consent, and when it can be dangerous. They likewise need to know how to REFUSE! Kids need to know the power of saying NO!
A young person who knows their rights can better protect themselves than one who doesn't.
We do not treat people attracted to red hair as more of a threat to gingers. If you'd learned a friend found feet attractive, would you start keeping your shoes on around them suddenly?
Sounds silly, doesn't it? So why do we treat any attraction like that?
Attractions do not turn people into monsters, and abusers are not victims to their attractions simply unable to stop themselves. They alone are responsible for their choices, and they alone are to blame for the harm caused by those choices.