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How we could save our son.

Our sensitive, loving, vulnerable son believed he was a girl for 2,5 years.

This is what we did:

We took him off social media.
We encouraged him to do sports or physical activities so he could re connect with his body.
We reinforced his self esteem always, every hour, every day. We were generous at recognising the best in him.
We watched movies and documentaries about sects and indoctrination.

We spent time in nature and value what is natural.
We made our family dinners the  most fun part of the day. Listening to music, making jokes, remembering when he was little, anecdotes and family stories.
We made ourselves his reference. Not culture.

We stretched our bond as much as we could.
We discussed how everybody can change their minds about an idea they truly used to believe in.

We talked about how growing up was for us, our fears and frustrations.
We encourage him to meet with his old friends. The ones that knew him better. We turned our house into a place they could have pizza and good times. 

We showed him the positive things about being a man and the different kinds of men there are.

We enjoyed his music together.
We became experts in gender.
We learned, read, had long long talks about what we discovered and the impact on him.
We avoided talking about the theory of gender and only  talked about out position (prudence) in family counselling sessions.

And then, slowly, gently and loving he started to live, to go out, to grow up. 

Today he is well, relived. 

His body is intact. And so is his future.

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